Dancing James – a lurker speaks

A final solution.

I don't think there's enough James threads.
I want more.

Write them. Use your imagination. :)

I put my coat on and left this thread, which was a bit irresponsible. Skully's words struck me and after a bit of a think I realise why I am a bit more affected by the Paul Roantree/DJ story than I might have otherwise been.

My father died 18 months ago after similarly short illness (yes, cancer). Paul's thread started around the anniversary and following it day-by-day perfectly described the uncertainty, hope and depression of a terrible journey.

In grieving I was a terrible bore, not very nice to hang out with and not very nice to people who I believed hadn't walked a mile in my shoes. In DJ's story (the visible one - I don't know what gets said in the pub/on the phone/etc., so apologies to others who dealt with this) I see myself, so I guess a year ahead, I'm bothered enough to start a thread about it.

To others who were/still are involved with Paul Roantree's care/his memorial, I'm sorry if I seemed presumptuous in interfering. To DJ's mates who've been very supportive, clearly I couldn't see what else was going on, but it's regrettable, nonetheless, that we've been at odds. Original message to DJ's former posting style (note, not DJ - I don't know him), come back!

I think while I'm new-ish and lurky, I'll stick to less contentious subjects.

Fair enough Chris

nicely put chris, i am sorry to hear about your father.

To others who were/still are involved with Paul Roantree's care/his memorial, I'm sorry if I seemed presumptuous in interfering

Paul had a good number of friends that were very close to him (too many to list) and the part they could play in his life was reward enough to put them at peace. you can rest easy knowing they aren't looking for recognition or worried about hearsay/disruption