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  • Congratulations Pascalo!

  • [QUOTE=braker;340477]Do not get married abroad.
    It's a logistical fucking nightmare.

    More info please.

    also,
    anyone actually in real life eloped?
    sounds like a gag and better than a lot of the other options .

  • My brother went to the lakes and took a trip to gretna.
    Mum cried for weeks.

  • I'm best man at my other brothers wedding on the 12th Aug.

  • Dunno about eloped, but my ex wife didn't tell her parents back in China until after we were married

  • Do not get married.
    It's a fucking nightmare.

    ftfy.

    Ha.

    But in my broad and deep experience, keeping it simple is infinitely better. The stress that a big 'big day' produces can have a lasting detrimental effect not just between you, but also with in-laws.

    No experience of eloping or going abroad though.

    Yet.

  • Dunno about eloped, but my ex wife didn't tell her parents back in China until after we were married

    and how did they take it?

  • Alright I think. Met her mum soon after (I think they were separated) and got on OK, despite communication difficulties

  • fuck getting married

  • Me and my lady are having quite a small wedding, less than 60 guests almost all of them are family and something like 5 friends each. Neither of us wanted a huge day that we would be paying for for the next 5 years. We've saved money each month been very strict and I think/hope we'll have it paid for by August.
    My job in finance helped as I've put together a spreadsheet for keeping track of what we've got left to pay and guests, rsvp's that kind of thing.

    We did talk about getting married abroad but I don't think it would be fair on my grandparents and not everyone who we want to come would be able to afford it.

  • Oh and my (soon to be Mrs.) has got her dress, I've been told that's an important thing.

  • There are very few fixed costs. Toni and I had exactly the wedding we wanted for not much money.
    I think the cost to me works out at about £5-6k. That was money I had saved up for a rainy day.
    2k of that was the venue, and 1k was the bar tab.

    I could have done it cheaper - just gone to the registry office instead of hiring Tower Bridge, but I had the cash and it's an amazing place so I pushed the 'fuck it' button. If I had had to borrow money to do it I would not have done. Having that venue imposed a 50 person guest limit (though we made the reception a free for all) so that enabled me to save on transport. The Routemaster bus I hired to get everyone to the reception was actually the cheapest way of doing it as well as one of the coolest.

    Limos for the bridal party were an essential thing as there was no way I'd hear the end of it from my mother in law if I had booked cabs for them, so that pushed the cost up by £500. However as she paid for all the reception food I was happy to do it. The best man and I went on the tube!

    I saved on entertainment costs thanks to the generosity of Caspar who lent me the Rollapaluza DJ equipment, the Bright Times DJs who played the records. The wedding cake was also a present, and my wife's dress was her mother's 1964 Chanel wedding dress, altered to fit her.

    It was bloody brilliant, and everyone enjoyed it a lot.

  • Sounds like a brilliant day.

  • We opted for getting married at the venue rather than a registry office, but mum and dad said they would pay the difference to make it easier for everyone.

    We are going to have set people for the wedding but the evening will be a free for all. Hopefully the weather will be nice (October) so people can roam outside if they like.

    As for photographers we've got one of them in the family, he's a photographer for Thomas Cook so that's a lot of money saved there.

    I've also got the honeymoon budgeted into our plans but we've both said It's not the end of the world if we can't afford a lavish break it and if we need to save money it will be done here. We've also got family out in Africa so that's always a possibilty.

    I didn't think I'd be quite so excited about my wedding day but as it's just over 6 months I'm looking forward to it. Although I'm nervous at the same time.

  • Dredged kicking and screaming from the Lfgss archives.

    It's my turn to put a ring on it, six months until D-day. We have venue, food, booze, photographer, invites, honeymoon, dress and registrar sorted but need some lateral thinking on flowers (or general dressing of the hall), DJ's and rings, we are on a budget and there isn't much left.

    I was thinking of heading down to New Covent Garden market and filling my van with flowers the day before and getting the family involved, they're all pretty arty types. Cheap but too stressful? I guess I'd need extra vases. What about balloons, everyone likes a balloon and they take up loads of space.

    The friends I have who are 'DJ's' are vinyl snobs who would treat 95% of the attendees with utter contempt but we don't want Daves mobile disco - pop hits of the 80s either. iPod djing is a bit soulless, we need a sympathetic someone. ?

    Her ring is sorted, I'm after a fairly thin plain 18ct band preferably not from Argos. Can anyone recommend a jeweller?

    Ta in advance for inputz.

  • Someone on here will know someone at an art college doing jewellery. A student would love to make you a ring. Esp if simply metalwork and not precious stones (a global marketing con if ever there was one).

    It worked for me and Mrs De Selby and is still holding up 26 years later.

    Better the vinyl snobs than Dave's disco - it has ruined many an otherwise brilliant wedding.

    You have to hand it to the LFGSS diaspora - everything can be solved!

    Best of luck...

  • We went to Southall and bought a matching pair of rings for a fraction of the price of a normal (ie white) jeweller. So called "indian gold", so hallmarks are scarce/missing, but good quality and it's glinting on my finger as I type this. It's not a plain band, it's decorated with a simple engraved pattern. From memory it was £250 for the two, but this was 15 years ago, so memory a bit hazy. Recommended. Just start at the first jewellers you find, and keep visiting others until you see a ring you like. It's all done by weight, so pricing seems a bit hit and miss to my Argos accustomed way of doing things, but I've bought lots of gold from the shops in Southall that way, and never felt ripped off. Had some friends over from Dehli once, they brought some gold over to sell in Southall - they didn't thing they had been ripped of either.

    Congratulations btw.

  • Also, question if you want to be up at 4.00 am the day before your wedding haggling with traders at NCG? Enough time to speak to a wholesaler and get them delivered surely. But seems a lot of faff. Also, my Mum and my Gran used to "do the flowers" for church - lot of mess, lots of disagreements about how to do it, lots of backhanded compliments and sarcy asides. Also, vases+water+giddy small children+drunken adults = ?

    Everyone loves balloons, and helium, and nice ribbons to put them on, with bags of chocolate coins to weigh them down (again, buy them wholesale). Some venues will charge you if the balloons end up in the ceiling.

    Large pictures of the bride and groom in younger times are always very popular as venue decoration on the walls.

  • I was thinking of heading down to New Covent Garden market and filling my van with flowers the day before and getting the family involved, they're all pretty arty types. Cheap but too stressful? I guess I'd need extra vases.

    We did something simliar; ordered a load of roses from the local flower shop, bought vases from ikea and roped in the neices and bridesmaids to make up the bunches into vases the night before - small vases for tables, and a couple of big ones on stands at the front.

    My top tip, for what it's worth, is to have people who agree to be in charge of each element of the wedding (ie, the flowers, the DJ, the cake...) - that way, when things aren't going quite to plan on the day, you can leave someone else in charge of setting things up and go solve problems. The upside of this is that people feel involved. My mum loved 'being in charge' of the cake.

  • I hit up the vintage jewelers in the Brighton Laines for my (and her actually) ring. Think I paid £90 for exactly what you're describing. Hers was a bit more.

    Sure Hatton Gardens would be worth a peruse too. despite having no knowledge or prior interest in the subject I now weirdly enjoy browsing old jewelers shops. I had a great afternoon out recently buying my wife some vintage opal earrings last month. You meet some interesting characters in these places. Ended up having a looong chat and coffee with a wonderful old Jewish guy when buying a pearl bracelet a few years ago too.

  • I would rather go to an Oasis gig than get married

    As you were

  • Weren't you in the original line up?

  • Fair enough, playswellwithotters has a better class of wedding guest :-))

  • I would rather go to an Oasis gig then get married

    That's what I call foreplay.

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