I hate

I remember when a partner pointed out my first grey pubes in my early 30s.

People whining about the difficulty or costs of having children deserve similar amounts of sympathy that dog owners who complain about having to pick up their dogs faeces. It’s a choice you made, insert deal with it glasses.

FFS DJ, I know you're a self diagnosed cunt but that is so far wide of the mark it's not even funny.

I typed then removed a diatribe about this because I think with the above statement you've retreated so far up your own arse you wouldn't be able to comprehend it.

Oh Lord! Do you think I was being entirely serious in that comparison?

Ah, the old "I was just kidding!" defence. The problem here is that many people here have small children and can see through that instantly.

My contention is with the people who wish to complain about the impact their choice to have children makes on their lives.

Even this is bullshit. A lot of the impact you're hearing about is 99 times out of 100 caused by things outside of their control or things that in other countries even are much fairer/less of an impact. Cost of living, childcare provision, work/life balance, having to move away from family for work/cost reasons so losing out on additional support that would normally alleviate stresses and not break people down to the point where they do complain. Having kids is a right, and it's hard. Some people deal with it better than others. Some people have it harder than others. Chosing not to have children is also a right, and one that conversely comes without the same stresses so those aspects of life that non-breeders* hear breeders complaining about are often misunderstood (unless the non-breeders have a shred of empathy).

I wouldn't say my life is any harder than yours, in some ways it is and in some ways it is probably easier. If I were to complain or vent about some aspect of parenting that is difficult, it's not up to you to judge whether or not I have a right to do so. And that you feel compelled to speak/type it out loud says a lot more about you as a person than any parent who does have a moan.

I am not denying anyone’s right to have children which is what you accused me of. However people who continually complain about the impact their children have on themselves possibly hadn’t considered fully the implications.

It was a facetious/incendiary comparison that I made and am sorry if anyone has taken great offence. I am just recalling a recent festival I went to. There was one friend there with his two kids, his daughter just wanted to ride on the ferris wheel and wasn’t so interested in the music aspect. My friend took great delight in spending a huge amount on fun fair rides and candyfloss because that was what his daughter wanted and was giving her joy. There was another family where the two parents were squabbling about who was looking after the kids at what time and even complaining their children’s demands were “fucking with my vibe”.

I've often wondered why the childless are both so self-congratulatory, yet so bitter.

What a ridiculous thing to say. Maybe some people are, but that's a generalisation very wide of the mark.

I have produced 3 kids who are now contributing their taxes towards everyone's future benefit*. You're all welcome.

*assuming that the tories don't siphon it all off into their pockets for much longer.

However people who continually complain about the impact their children have on themselves possibly hadn’t considered fully the implications.

Maybe because not enough people they knew shared the downsides of parenting? The people that are complaining now are providing a service to those considering forking.

“fucking with my vibe”

My (4) kids have been “fucking with my vibe” for the last 38 years.

You should keep it in a locked draw.

I wish I'd kept something locked up

I am not denying anyone’s right to have children which is what you accused me of.

Nope, never said that.

There was another family...

Do you know them personally? Share of parenting/childcare in a family can often be a minefield of shit and most likely points a finger at their relationship rather than their desire or appropriateness to be parents.

possibly hadn’t considered fully the implications.

Spoiler alert, no one has (or could they possibly). Still doesn't give you the right to be a judgemental prick about them.

I was responding to Greenbank not you, perhaps I should have separated responses and recalling their “ It sounds like you'd rather then "wrong" people didn't have kids. Tell me more how you think that would work...”

The other couple are generally good folk, but clearly should have not brought kids to a festival when what they both really wanted to do was run around for a weekend off their faces. But it was a jarring comparison seeing the other friend so happily make the weekend focus on what his children wanted.

young people who wear turtlenecks

just absolutely screams cryptobro

doesn't give you the right to be a judgemental prick about them.

Is probably a response we could use to any post on this thread 😀

Those websites that grab public information that is available in LinkedIN or in your website and make available for others for cash, kind a directory-yellow pages.
Spam.

The non-stopping noise pollution where I live in central London.

My neibhour above who got a eDrum and still playing the same patterns in his pads for almost a year.

Neighbours who have no sense of what means living in society and think is ok to shout/squeek at 3am.

People who interrupt you phone conversations while they can see you busy.

People who walk off the shops and home as if they have a red carpet laid.

Native English speakers who despite the majority of the world speaking their language, arguably good/bad always pretend that they don't get what is said/written instead of being grateful of be able to communicate with so many people with so many different experiences than them.

People who defend like fanatics "trendy inclusivity" and judge you because you riding a bike, have ripped clothes, a tattoo or a piercing or whatever they don't approve personally.

Not awarding people for their merith but for clicks and personally affinity or agreability convinience.

Scenes gatekeepers.

Social media.

Ads.

People who pull an accent or a way of ghetto speaking in attempt to reach argument superiority instead.

Those Fa$hion-followers cunts who took the piss of subcultures for so many years and now is trendy to wear doctor martens and get their kiss/Guns/Slayer/sex pistols in Primark or H&M and go to a gig and think they are very cool.

Someone telling me for the past 25 years "oh I use to be like you and all Long hair and that listened to Metallica...and....yeah..." as if I am going to like them because of that or something...

People who say that you shouln't cycle on the road.

The ammount of app updates we get these days.

Pay2Win.

Faster>better

Aesthetics > Function

Side road drain covers fit in the wrong way can get your wheel stuck and die.

People on the ebikes/bikes/mopeds who overtake you way too close without let you know they coming risking accident.

People who let you know that you have no breaks on your bike.

People who hold conversations based on everything around them or talk at you and not allowing dialogue/exchange.

I don't understand how so many people all of a sudden excuses/self-defeats themselves ADHD/"Depression"/MentalHealth for everything that happens to them instead of getting on with it.

I could be here all day, is how the world is, I guess we have to DEAL WITH IT OR GTFO!
:D

Feel better?

oh mate, much better.

My neibhour above who got a eDrum and still playing the same patterns in his pads for almost a year.

One flatshare I was in, there was a guy teaching himself to play the trumpet. Somehow he didn't understand the standard 8-note scale and always played one note flat. He couldn't hear the problem himself and wouldn't listen to anybody who tried to tell him about it (I didn't even try). All he ever did was practice scales, badly. For months.

Really nice guy when he wasn't playing the trumpet. IQ of a hamster.

the no progression is a shame ahah

I feel you, mine doesn't even do any rudiments or anything, not even paradiddles!!!!

One reason I didn't say anything because one of the other people in the flat was a professional pianist and it drove him mad. Since the pianist was flat out the nastiest person I have ever met in my life, I decided I could live with the bum notes.

that sounds tense ahah

Reminds other day I went next door to tell them to stfu at 3am, the guy tells me his wife is deaf and I ask if he is sure she is not blind instead and not see the time in her watch.

not even paradiddles!!!!

Steve Gadd needs to hunt him down.

Car alarms.

I don’t give a fuck that someone has touched / broken into / whatever your fucking car. And yet here we all are, listening to your fucking BMW shrieking at a million decibels at half 8 when I’m trying to get my kids to sleep (I know, it was my choice to have kids, what a twat I am). I hope someone is actually stealing your fucking BMW, because then maybe the noise of the alarm would fuck off somewhere else, also you drive like a cunt so it would be all round better for everyone if you were 1 car to the fewer.