Overheard at the LFGSS golf club bar

Yep you sound like a proper cunt.

While complimentary, it still sounds like there’s a power dynamic inferred by the language.

Again, “we got him in and he did x, y, and z” is preferable IMO. I do operate under a company name, and I would be less annoyed by someone saying “we used XYZ electrical services” compared to “we used Nef”.

I can only speak for myself, but that’s how it comes across when I hear it. I’m not about to tell people how to talk, but it surely doesn’t hurt to consider it.

My manservant serves only me whereas the manservant serves the whole household.

Some people will never get it. Heaping OTT praise sounds like you’re impressed that this person is even capable of such a level of work. So fucking disingenuous. When I hear that stuff, honestly, I’m thinking “well who the fuck are you to judge?”. There’s implicit condescension in that passage he wrote snd he’ll never spot it.

I think you're just showing us your own fragility and prejudice, which is a bit unfortunate.

I do like the subtle "only God can judge me" element though, nicely done.

Some people will never get it.

Don’t think anyone will when you call your staff as “the staff”.

Heaping OTT praise sounds like you’re impressed that this person is even capable of such a level of work.

100%, cultural imperialism at its finest, lol.

The cat that we house and feed has staff.

My bad.

Sure, it's all about the context - point I'm trying to make is that it's commonplace usage and whilst I'm aware of unconscious bias being A Thing, I doubt that the sub-conscious thought process is 'I must exert my ownership of Nef Electronics, but in a way that is deniable".

The theoretical speaker of the passage that I wrote is using "my" to indicate to the person they are speaking with their level of esteem for the person they're talking about.

If they'd used "the" it would change the character of what is being said, and in a negative way - putting the person referred to outside the group as it were.

There are plenty of unconscious things driving use of language in this way, but using 'my' in this way is to include the subject in the speakers group, rather than to assert ownership of them.

Would be the succinct way to put it, thank you. :)

I do hope nobody feels bullied in this thread.

100%, cultural imperialism at its finest, lol.

Not sure if you're joking here, but of course it's possible to judge the work of someone whose expertise you don't have - not necessarily in the area of the specialisation, but if you turn up late, don't answer emails, do half the work and fuck off, then demand payment for the whole thing before turning up again, etc etc. I think most of us have also experienced one sparks standing there and, after sucking their teeth, saying "fucking hell, who put this in for you?"

But maybe our definition of OTT differs.

Hmm, does ever so slightly grate when I hear "my mechanic"
Doesn't bother me that much though

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/have-a-chip-on-your-shoulder

Are Cav OBE

It’s definitely “my barber” and “my dealer” so is it “my” if they provide a personal service?

This feels like some really small/unremarkable hills being died upon today...

I find it weird when people are like you should try ABC Motors, ask for Dave, tell them Alex sent you, it's like how much work do you get done that they would have idea who you are unless you are actually family/friend/drinking buddy

but is it my hill or the hill to die on?

That made me laugh, thank you for the perspective.

Bingo!

One's hill

Our hill.

😏

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