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• #2
For the love of fuck sake. Have you honestly just asked for dating advice on a cycling website?
Jimmy_Fingers: Dear Agony Aunt Object, My life is so screwed up right now because I can't work someone out who I've known for 5 minutes. Can you help me?
Object: Harden The Fuck Up.
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• #3
I think hes taking the piss object... funny cunt.
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• #4
I really hope he is!
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• #5
ooohhh get shinny with his 3 green blocks of reputation!
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• #6
yeah i swaped it for a nitto pearl buddy VB does a good exchange rate.
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• #8
Get your mate Phillippe to text/call her. If he get's a reply, then she's blanking you. If he doesn't, then maybe she's just lost her phone.
She knows where to find you if she needs to - if she really likes you she'll go to the pub where she knows you'll be.
I have to say though, I've been with a few lasses in the past who I thought were the best thing in the world, but they'd blow hot and cold constantly, and eventually leave you not knowing your arse from your elbow. They appear great, but are really manipulative. You need to cool off a bit, and not be too needy. If she turns up then things are on your terms, but don't chase her. -
• #9
Fred, that's truely beautiful.
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• #10
For the love of fuck sake. Have you honestly just asked for dating advice on a cycling website?
+1 and as it is a cycling website...
Forget the bitch. Get on your bike and just ride.
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• #11
Get on the bitch and just ride.
woop!
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• #12
+1 and as it is a cycling website...
Forget the bitch. Get on your bike and just ride.
there are countless discussions on here that have fuck all to do with cycling.why is this any different.
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• #13
woop!
I prefer your version :)
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• #14
there are countless discussions on here that have fuck all to do with cycling.why is this any different.
I prefer my version :(
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• #15
Fred, that's truely beautiful.
as are you (on the inside)
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there are countless discussions on here that have fuck all to do with cycling.why is this any different.
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as are you (on the inside)
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• #18
For the love of fuck sake. Have you honestly just asked for dating advice on a cycling website?
Jimmy_Fingers: Dear Agony Aunt Object, My life is so screwed up right now because I can't work someone out who I've known for 5 minutes. Can you help me?
Object: Harden The Fuck Up.
err...Miscellaneous & Meaningless, right? But thanks for the imput
But HTFU is good advice
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• #19
Just because some other people have posted shit in the past doesn't mean that everyone has to do the same.
tell your girlfriend that.
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• #20
Seriously, opening your (potential) love life to criticism/debate on the internet is a bad idea.
We don't know you, we don't know the girl. Any advice we give is inherently flawed.And I figured HTFU was good advice which is why (for once) I didn't just call someone (you) a cunt.
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tell your girlfriend that.
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• #22
oh...well that's a bonus. we didn't even exchange texts or kiss on your doorstep.
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• #23
So, to summarise, jimmy_fingers hasn't called her and wonders why she's gone quiet on him?
Hmm, not tough to solve this is it.
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oh...well that's a bonus. we didn't even exchange texts or kiss on your doorstep.
But that picture of your face that you glued to my mansexdoll was enough for me.
Wouldn't be posting this but this bird has proper scrambled my brain. I'll seperate it into three sections so those at the back can keep up.
1 The backstory
I basically worked with this girl for one four hour shift at my old work (I stormed out about 4 days later). Didn't think a lot of her at immediately but as the shift went on we got chatting and she kept laughing at what I was saying (no she wasn't retarded, honest injun) and at the end I sorta had that slightly giddy feeling you get when you've met someone you like. Anyway I left as I said and was a bit gutted I wasn't going to see her again. My pal Phillippe was on holiday but when he got back I sent him a text asking him to get her number. A day later I got a text from her, saying that Phillippe had given her my number and asking me how I was. There was a brief exchange of texts and then I asked her if she wanted to go for a drink, she said yes and we arranged to meet up a few days later. We continued to swap texts for the next few days.
2 The Date
Met her at 7:30, left her at midnight. Inbetween we did nothing but talk and laugh. We covered a lot of subjects, found out we had similar politics, tastes in music and both liked cooking. Good body language (mimicing, hair touching, you know the score), good fun. I thought she had a really cute way of talking and pretty eyes. Can't tell you what she thought unfortunately, I'm not Derren Brown. We went to three pubs, ending in one near her house. At the end I offered to walk her back (she's 28 BTW, just back from SA and living with her mum) and she accepted. Before parting she told me she had a lovely evening, I agreed and moved in for a cuddle and a kiss, which I duely got (no tongues). I asked her if we were going to do this again, she said yes, I turned to leave, then pulled her close again for another kiss (still no tongues). On the way home got another text from her thanking me again for the lovely evening. I'm as happy as Larry, good night, thought I'd done good. Worth mentioning we had about 4 drinks the entire night so weren't hammered by any means
3 The Aftermath
The aftermath is basically zip. That text that night is the last one I've received from her. I've not done a Swingers (and if you don't get that reference just watch the film, its genius) but sent three gentle texts, one Thursday (the day after) just saying hope it wasn't too painful getting to work that morning, and then one Friday (which was sunny) saying hope she's gets a chance to enjoy the sun today and feel free to wish me a happy birthday (since it was) and then again on Monday, just asking how she is and suggesting we meet for a drink Wednesday (tonight) but still zip, nada, zero
So anyway I'm wondering what the fuck's going on and what to do.
Ideal scenario A is there's been a technical glitch (phone lost, phone cut off) and she'll roll up tonight at the pub I suggested (because she may know I'm going even if she hasn't gotten the message as Philippe is meeting me there) I'll grin broadly, she'll smile, we'll hug, kiss a bit and live happily ever-after
Ideal scenario B is she's playing hard to get, or working from some relationship rules that dictates a timescale before she contacts me again (yes they do exist. My last girlfriend had a book called 'Is He The One' or summat and lived by it. It was the book that told her to dump my sorry arse seven months later. I hate that book). She'll contact me, I'll grin broadly and so on
Less ideal scenario C is that she's has some personal issue to deal with so focussed on that and maybe when she's over that she'll remember me, drop me a text, I'll grin broadly and you know the rest
All the other scenarios are shite: basically she woke up in the morning, freaked out because of a recent split maybe, or simply decided she didn't like me and that the best way to deal with it is to ignore me. That doesn't make sense to me because it's so cold, and she's not like that. All I need is a text saying 'had a good night but not in the right place right now for anything more than friendship' and the classic 'speak soon' which means that is highly unlikely and I'm done. Bit gutted but at least out of my misery.
So do I drop it now and give up, or call her rather than text her tonight and see if she's wants to come out, or maybe text her asking her what's going on or get someone to give her the Cds I burnt for her (she told me she's lost all hers and her ipod) on Thursday (when I thought I was going to see her again) with a wittyish note bascially saying I take the hint but think its a shame.
Realise that is a shitload to read and you don't know me from Adam (good bloke BTW) but will appreciate some opinion, demented or otherwise