RIP: Steff

Horrible news...didn't really know Steff beyond saying hello and having a dance whenever our paths crossed but he always seemed such a chirpy character. As others have said, it's tragic that things for him only had one resolution.

it's been a bad coupla days, huh. My heart goes out to his family and loved ones. Obviously there is never a good time for these things but coming up to christmas... : (

:(

Rest in peace steff
A true gent
You'll be missed...

R ide
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P eace

It is always so sad to hear when people think the only option is to end their life....
Life is all we have.

Peace and Love to his family and friends,
Tim

An old friend, and a good man. I'm absolutely heart-broken to not have known that he needed a shoulder.
RIP.

So sad RIP Steff

RIP steff. i am lucky to have enjoyed your intense bike geekiness and easy charm a number of times.

my thoughts go out to those closer to you.

RIP Steff

Hope the wind is on your back

Sad news. RIP Steff.

i feel so sorry, endlessly sorry, to have met you and failed to be a friend... one that could have talked you out of it...
^ Exactly how I feel today

I e-mailed Emlia in case she had not heard - she is currently in Japan on her way to cycling around the world.
I think what she wrote back sums up Steff for a lot of us.

*Almost all my memories of him are of his generosity. I first got to
know him through my courier blog, when I whinged about failing
waterproofs and he offered me Nikwax. He lent my brother an expensive
waterproof for Dunwich, on the spur of the moment, and without even
having met him.He bought my toolkit from me before I left - I suspect
as a surreptitious way of donating to my trip, rather than because he
actually needed it. He has regularly sent me out bits of kit, so much
so that I now try to avoid mentioning when things break, because I
know he'll insist on trying to replace them.

He used to go on shooting weekends near my parents' house in Wales,
and I'd hoped I'd run into him there someday. I really can't believe
he's gone. He still seems so present.

Like everyone, no doubt, I wish I'd had the chance to be in touch with
him just one more time.*

I'm having a hard time with it. I saw him at the London Open polo event in August and was quite worried, he looked very ill and pale. He said he had been working hard and when I saw him again just a few weeks ago he was in fine form and apparently hopeful about his upcoming move abroad. It's impossible to see how he got from there to where he ended up. I can only begin to guess at how his loved ones must be feeling.
I am not on Facebook and so if there is any more information out there, about what happened or about his funeral, I would be very greatful if someone could pass it on.

Terrible news. Had met Steff a couple of occasions at drinks, genuinely a lovely chap.
RIP.

Absolutely tragic. Never met the chap but he seems to have been a really good lad.

All I'll say is, there's nothing any of you could have done to help. Some people are so private about huge parts of their emotions, and will never, ever show what they are truly feeling.
I'm sure a lot of people who knew him are saying 'If only i'd known, if only I'd helped' and are possibly suffering feelings of guilt, but no-one could have forced him to talk about his true feelings unless he chose to do so. He didn't, possibly couldn't, but you also have to understand that just being in the company of friends for a while will have been a huge relief to him, and helping others would have made him feel good, if only for a while.
If he helped you, then you helped him.
Remember the good times with a good lad, and if you feel down try to talk to a loved one about it.

I hope my little ramble is taken in the spirit I've written it. I don't want to intrude on a grief I'm not really part of, even though I do mourn the passing of a fellow forum member, but I do have some experience of something very similar, so I hope you'll excuse my two penneth.

RIP Steff

PM me if anyone would rather I removed the above for whatever reason.

no, you're good with me
my own brother attempted, lucky he survied, albeit with a broken back, shatterd elbow and knee
beat myself up for years wishin I was there, but you can't

Nicely put Luci!
I don't know him and have never met him but reading the impact he has had on others and how he will be missed has chocked me up more than a little.
RIP Steff

Rip

RIP Steff. I didn't know you, but it sounds like you had a real positive effect on everyone you met.

Thanks general lucifer
Word that will resound with many people here

RIP Steff. This is just so sad.

Steffan Davies
You come across Joey Bada$$? 17 year old produces not-RnB shocka (in a good way).

22:31
Virgil Tibbs
No, I've never come across ant 17 year old, what kind of a guy do you think I am. I like the fast snares on this beat however, really nice.

22:31
Steffan Davies
Great, innit

22:33
Virgil Tibbs
yeah, where's he from?

22:34
Steffan Davies
Brooklyn, I believe

22:34
Virgil Tibbs
he did mention it a lot
and I suppose he wouldn't have a summer home there
probably lives there

22:34
Steffan Davies
http://www.livemixtapes.com/mixtapes/17524/joey_bada_1999.html
is the download for the full mixtape
I've skimmed through it, and that's the standot track for me

22:38
Virgil Tibbs
downloading noe
*now
how have you been anyway?

I'm not listening to any sad songs.....I'm listening to Joey Bada$$!!! Thanks Steff

Joey Bada$$ ft. Capital STEEZ - Survival Tactics [Prod. Vin Skully] - YouTube

i didnt know you but RIP

Same here.

I never knew him either but he seemed like a very well liked guy. This thread is very sad to read.

RIP

Read the thread a few times and will add my 2ps worth.

Luci is right. Personally, I'm just sad that he felt that was his only option. He was a really nice person. We all have to agree his facial hair was awesome.

Had met stef a few times, we often ended up talking about food, he had a love for southern Italian peasant food dishes that I thought no one had heard of. Reading about how stef was with other people shows how little I knew of him. When we bumped in to each other mentioned doing some food thing that never happened. But think it was him being such a gent.

Hope that you find peace. It was a pleasure to have met you.

Ride free.