Any question answered...

Alas I only found out about these issues after heading down the relationship road, but had I known I'm not sure it'd have stopped me.

The ex left her late last year so I'm hoping she's already had a lot of time, and that will help.

Right now I'm not desperate for a full-on relationship either - I've told her that it doesn't matter to me if she wants to really take her time and she doesn't have to put any kind of label on it - but the fact that she's growing closer to me is what's scaring her. I'm happy to carry on and just give her the time and support to work it out.

For now I've asked one of her good friends - a platonic male friend, which I think is a good call - to maybe try talking her around... subtly! Besides that I figure I just give her lots of space and hopefully she'll realise that she's happier with me around. Fingers crossed!

I dunno, you seem to be edging into Nice Guy territory.