What was your worst/standard punishment as a child?

nicky sorry m8 didnt realise you were a doctor

I was never beaten when I was a child - I grew up in a commune near Arcata, California, and as you might expect physical violence was very much frowned upon amongst these people. I used to think they were wrong.

I do have a son of my own who I occasionally beated when he acted out (he's 8 years old). Three months ago it sort of got out of hand though - child services took him away after I snapped and got too violent. The kid started to call me Frank instead of dad about a year ago, which annoyed me, and I told him to call me dad again - he didn't, and I guess I got furious when he called me Frank one too many time.

I'm forced to take anger management classes and also parenting classes now and I learned that violence can never be the answer, no matter how much the kid gets on your nerves. I'm actually also working on getting my son back to my house, but the authorities said that could take several months - with my wife not around anymore and my son somewhere I can't reach him, I really don't know what to do with my time...

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candid

I was never beaten when I was a child - I grew up in a commune near Arcata, California, and as you might expect physical violence was very much frowned upon amongst these people. I used to think they were wrong.

I do have a son of my own who I occasionally beated when he acted out (he's 8 years old). Three months ago it sort of got out of hand though - child services took him away after I snapped and got too violent. The kid started to call me Frank instead of dad about a year ago, which annoyed me, and I told him to call me dad again - he didn't, and I guess I got furious when he called me Frank one too many time.

I'm forced to take anger management classes and also parenting classes now and I learned that violence can never be the answer, no matter how much the kid gets on your nerves. I'm actually also working on getting my son back to my house, but the authorities said that could take several months - with my wife not around anymore and my son somewhere I can't reach him, I really don't know what to do with my time...

That's the thing with hitting kids.

They misbehave, you smack them.
They misbehave more, you smack them harder.
What if they don't learn, don't behave?

Do you beat the living shit out of them?

It takes a big man to admit their faults, Frank. I wish you luck.
You must be under a lot of pressure as a single parent, and it must be difficult not to lash out at times.

I'm still waiting for my list of alternative punishments...

I take mine to Souths and make them spend the evening Hoops and Guap...it usually works for about five weeks, before I have to do it again.

Seriously, you do not have to hit your kids. I have done it twice, regretted it immediately both times and never since.

And Gaggle, I can understand someone who loses it and hits their kid out of anger - not right, but understandable. But someone who PLANS to hit their kid within some bullshit framework or love - that's some sick fucker. Learn to raise your children without violence, it really isn't that difficult.

nicky sorry m8 didnt realise you were a doctor

just because your friend is a doctor doesn't mean that they are right. to make it worse, they are religious.

to suggest that a specific part of a body only becomes sensitive after a few days is fucking bullshit. if it's even possible to test for this, which would have only been possible in recent medical history, what about all those circumcised hundreds of years ago? were they just assuming that it didn't hurt, or just mutilating their babies for a non existant sky wizard who sounds like a right berk.

ma ma used to lock me in the morning room with nanny and not let me watch blakes 7

thats why i am the crazed mental case i am today

candid

That's the thing with hitting kids.

They misbehave, you smack them.
They misbehave more, you smack them harder.
What if they don't learn, don't behave?

Do you beat the living shit out of them?

It takes a big man to admit their faults, Frank. I wish you luck.
You must be under a lot of pressure as a single parent, and it must be difficult not to lash out at times.

Thanks. I usually don't really talk about these things exept when I'm at my weekly AA meeting, but reading all these stories in this thread sort of made me open up I guess! It's actually really liberating.

Anyways, as long as I'm being honest - yes, I really am under a lot of pressure at the moment. And truthfully speaking, the only thing that helps me cope right now are hookers and the will to get my son back. Hopefully I will - wish me luck!

mutilating their babies for a non existant sky wizard who sounds like a right berk, is child abuse.

Fixed that for you there.

because i like "berk"

Thanks. I usually don't really talk about these things exept when I'm at my weekly AA meeting, but reading all these stories in this thread sort of made me open up I guess! It's actually really liberating.

Anyways, as long as I'm being honest - yes, I really am under a lot of pressure at the moment. And truthfully speaking, the only thing that helps me cope right now are hookers and the will to get my son back. Hopefully I will - wish me luck!

are you really trolling this thread?

Thanks. I usually don't really talk about these things exept when I'm at my weekly AA meeting, but reading all these stories in this thread sort of made me open up I guess! It's actually really liberating.

Anyways, as long as I'm being honest - yes, I really am under a lot of pressure at the moment. And truthfully speaking, the only thing that helps me cope right now are hookers and the will to get my son back. Hopefully I will - wish me luck!

either you are a troll or a seriously fucked up person.

either you are a troll or a seriously fucked up person.

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you know, when I read my posts now I see how it all may seem like some made-up story. But truth be told - I'm really in a bad place right now. Thing is I really am a person who needs to be around other people, and as I said my son was taken away, and my wife ran off with her dance instructor (I'm not even joking!) four years ago - so I'm pretty much all alone. Don't really have any family, and my buddies from back in the day are pretty much all alcoholics, and since I quitted I can't bear being in contact with them anymore. And I know seeing hookers is actually a bad thing but being with other people really is, as I mentioned, the thing that keeps me going at the moment. Often times I don't even sleep with them - we just talk. And it's liberating, to say the least!

...and I know seeing hookers is actually a bad thing but being with other people really is, as I mentioned, the thing that keeps me going at the moment. Often times I don't even sleep with them - we just talk. And it's liberating, to say the least!

This part is what threw people off, I'm sure you can see why they start doubting you the moment you mentioned 'hookers'.

Shit man. Sounds like you need more meaningful social contact than talking to prostitutes. Or as long as you're paying spend the money you're giving to them on proper therapy time. I'm not saying this to be judgemental or anything, it just sounds like you are in a bad place and aware enough of what you're doing to be doing something more constructive with your time/cash that will also help you with your kid. I mean you could both take up a hobby together or something and spend some quality time/meet new folk? join a cycle club?

This part is what threw people off, I'm sure you can see why they start doubting you the moment you mentioned 'hookers'.

sometimes, this whole place would be lost, without you to clear things up.

sometimes,
this whole place would be lost,
without you
to clear things up.

That's beautful, BRM

you know, when I read my posts now I see how it all may seem like some made-up story. But truth be told - I'm really in a bad place right now. Thing is I really am a person who needs to be around other people, and as I said my son was taken away, and my wife ran off with her dance instructor (I'm not even joking!) four years ago - so I'm pretty much all alone. Don't really have any family, and my buddies from back in the day are pretty much all alcoholics, and since I quitted I can't bear being in contact with them anymore. And I know seeing hookers is actually a bad thing but being with other people really is, as I mentioned, the thing that keeps me going at the moment. Often times I don't even sleep with them - we just talk. And it's liberating, to say the least!

i could get you a job at the place where I work, no probs.

thanks lucy

Thanks for adding reputation to this user. May you be lucky enough to receive the same Reputation back in turn.

I know of a couple of trained counsellors who got so fed up with the way you're exploited in the name of gaining accreditation, they set themselves up as prostitutes in Soho. Rented a room, blah blah blah.

They weren't cheap, and they mainly attracted affluent men who were just lonely, or had issues/baggage to work through. Sexual activity was a minor part of their working time, the majority spent doing a counselling role instead.

If I were single/estranged, I'd rather see a hooker than a 'pure' counsellor; although I'd probably opt for some sexual release as well as a chat.

Well, if you're already there....it would be rude not to.

No?

Agree.

You'd chat, have a bit of a cry perhaps... then check your watch.
And get a quick hand shandy.

super rep...all round