Saddle hurt, saddle sores

I don't see any other chicks commenting on here and lots of gooch talk so I don't know if I'm getting the same saddle sores as you guys are. Basically, I have freaking callouses where my sit bones are. I'm riding double what I did in NYC, yes, but I'm back on a bike that is more to my size - the top tube was too long on the Coventry Eagle. I'm riding the same saddle as in NYC (the last place I did riding this regular, but it was last September when I had to quit).

The only thing I can come up with that is different is I'm not wearing padded shorts. But how do I get rid of the callouses? I'm not going to the salon and have the lady give me a butticure.

I'm not sure if I have the 'sit-bones' thing - it may well be that my arse is too fat for that - but after long rides I used to get soreness in the general area. My tip would be waxing, not shaving - pressure there from the saddle causes ingrowing hairs, which waxing mitigates. Also, sugoi padded shorts are the best I've had.

I've never dipped into the murky world of sudocreme. I don't particularly want to smell like a baby.