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[quote=Emilia;851164]But can't you appreciate that quite a few women get wound up by comments on beauty/cuteness/hotness/boneability, even if you don't understand why? And surely, having appreciated this, the decent thing would be not to make the comments?[/quote

No. I'm not sure how commenting that someone looked nice creates a problem. IF you don't like it then just ignore it. It's how grown ups deal with these things...or at least I do.

But isn't it just common politeness to stop doing something if it's upsetting someone, even if you can't really sympathize with why it's upsetting them?

For example, I'm a total grammar nerd, and happy (indeed, eager) to be pulled up on typos, errors, etc. I don't really see a problem with people correcting each other (I think it's good), but I'm well aware that lots of people see it differently, and that I wouldn't make many friends if I went around pointing out people's misplaced apostrophes. So I don't.