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@cornelius_blackfoot
moog, my tuppence worth, is to let it go.
spent a long time trying to (in my mind) save a relationship, when the other party had already drawn a line under it. Best for your own sanity to make decisions that make you happy/happier.
Like Tiswas says, the ending of some relationships are like bereavement, you'll go through similar steps
and you'll probably go though all of them. Lean on your friends, talk about it as much as you can, and when ready find someone else, whether for a short time or a long time. There's a reason that the rebound person exists, because it creates both emotional and mental distance from the previous bod, and also reminds you that you are still attractive to the opposite sex, which is sometimes difficult to understand/comprehend when you are stuck in your own little world of pain.
She's doing what she feels is right for her, the words used are there to soften the blow. In the end you've got to do what is good/right for you, and trying to keep hold of a relationship which the other person has checked out of isn't a good thing...
Be Well, and use the bike to give yourself time to be free, and also a vehicle to think outside of the spaces, situations which you shared with your girlfriend..