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@Skülly
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Chin up mate. Don't 'just accept' or 'fight' it, maybe do something in between? Be open to your future, whether best together or not together. Only honesty will make you free to do that, so just be truthful and kind to each other. Communicate the things you really mean.
Take it easy, don't go off the deep end as soon as you are together, talk where and when you're ready. Work out what you're both feeling. Try and do social things with that person not just sitting in a flat, so you can also just spend some time together just being, and ready to talk when the mood takes you.
I feel that when you're 'with' someone for a long time, it can be hard to say how one is really feeling about the other, this* can* hurt if you manage to really be open with each other when you're ordinarily just 'nice' to each other. It might sound harsh to hear that one is simply 'annoying' or 'too nice' or 'boring' or 'too flirty' or 'too frigid' something, but easy to see how people end up feeling these sorts of things about someone whom they still deeply care for (I'm not suggesting I know what's happening with you two, just that it's easy to bottle things up).
That fact that you ask here means that you care enough to address what's happening instead of burying your head in the sand and getting pissed or whatever. You'll be in our 'prayers' or whatever each of us call that contemplative state. Good luck over the next few days.
Go for a decent bike ride first. The world looks better after cycling. If all else fails:
