If we didn't have identity don't you think the world would be a more boring place?
I totally agree, but identity doesn't have to come from who your family were. I prefer my personality or distincitveness to come from what I have learned, the experiences that I have had. It's a very egocentric viewpoint, I grant that, but it works for me personally. I am a product of myself and my will to change who I was brought up to be and the life I once lived. Obviously these things have shaped me but they do not define me.