• Ok, so that distils the argument perfectly. Whilst I obviously don't think it's wrong to ask for help, the one-way transaction of money muddies the waters. I would feel deeply uncomfortable asking for cash to fulfil an ambition that stood to only benefit me financially. I believe that Scott may have had a moral imperative to reciprocate in kind and not doing so might be imposing on a supportive community. Is it possible to simultaneously want to support someone and be taken advantage of? Obviously Scott made it clear he would be giving nothing back, but does this absolve of a duty to do so? Also does he have a responsibility to spend people's money diligently and produce a plan. Now I am not absolutely wedded to the position, but still believe it to be a valid question and only became entrenched because it was met with insults rather than discussion. I don't see the problem with asking these questions in response to a public post, I am consciously not telling anyone what to do. I can't really see how the vitriol is merited, but understand people may disagree with the position I have taken. What really annoyed me was the initial rush to quell the discussion by people who are obviously friends with him. This is a public forum and I'm not sure there is anything wrong with asking him to explain himself and finding said explanation unconvincing.

  • If I give you a gift can I then instruct you on what you can do with it, and ask for updates to ensure compliance?

    Doesn’t sound like a gift to me, that sounds like I’ve purchased some power over you in the act of giving you the money/item.

    If you asked me for money for a train fare then spent the cash on a haircut I might feel taken advantage of. If you asked me for money to help with getting a new job then spent the cash on things associated with that goal, not so much.

    Which of those two scenarios is most like what is happening here?

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