Strava

They just said it wasn't against their ToS.

This, I assume, is the personal opinion of the support rep who looked at your request. This is in their actual ToS:

You agree to not use the Site to: (a) upload, post, email, transmit or otherwise make available any Content that is unlawful, harmful, threatening, abusive, harassing, tortious, defamatory, vulgar, obscene, libelous, invasive of another’s privacy, hateful, or racially, ethnically or otherwise objectionable;

Is the casual use of "rape" vulgar, obscene, or otherwise objectionable? It kind of comes down to the opinion of the viewer of the material. Teh rep says "no", I say "yeah", but then I also have lots of segments uploaded with sweary titles that some people (nobody on here I imagine) might also find objectionable. There's no list of specific terms and phrases to use as a guide, and there probably never could be.

I suspect this will ultimately come down to what Strava sense that their users will tolerate, much like the progression of this here cycling board from being a sexist shithouse to a reasonably pleasant place in the last 6 years or so. But Strava has lots of users from bikeradar, singletrackworld, and that time trialing forum, so I wouldn't hold your breath.

How do you go about reporting it?