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Why the hell is everyone screaming he's a SEXIST! at Alex, he's not talking about trying to force her into a life of enslaved cycling, just asking how best to approach sharing his favourite form of transport with his girlfriend, no need to shoot him down.
I owe you a firm and appreciative handshake.
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Get her a bike as a gift instead of something she actually wants and you're a selfish asshole.
Get her a bike as an honest plea to get her to give it a try and at least it's honest.This was part of my original point; if I buy her a bike will she see it as me trying to force her into riding, or would it be a welcome token of a desire to share one of my favourite things in life with someone I care about.
So far the only noises she had made against cycling are loosely based on safety, although now that someone has made a point about commuting in relation to female attire, I suspect that another strong issue may be not wanting to ruin the hour worth of meticulous preparation in her appearance before she leaves the house each day.
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This is the only really sensible comment in this post.
People have, to a large extent, the ability to exercise freewill. If you're girlfirend wanted to ride a bike I'm sure she would be capable of communicating this fact to you, or whoever else she may feel comfortable discussing it with.
Asking, "How do I make someone do......" demonstrates just how little you think of them.
As for this:
Grow up and fuck off.haha - you need to chillax Object. Or is it because she works in your building that you're defensive?
You can't deny that the 'urban cowboy fixie rebel adventurer' image isn't particularly appealing to some of the fairer sex, and there are many bikes more instantly appealing to people than the cold, stripped look of a track frame. Hell, when I was pure bmx and mtb, I thought road looking frames and thin tires were laughably nerdy and now my eyes fix onto any bike that goes past and glaze slightly, to the extent that my girl has to check occasionally that I'm not looking at women.
It's not a matter of forcing her into riding, despite my imprecise syntax, but merely to open her up to the possibility of cycling without fear of becoming a ghost bike marker. (Or lycra clad commuter).
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So it's always me cycling ahead and meeting her, or I take the train and leave the bike at home. And you know what? I think it's better that way, in some aspects. Ask yourself: Do you really wanna give up the only "me" time that you can get without being suspected to cheat on her?
Holy shit, that's a great point. What if the years erode all the happiness and youthful joy that comes with being truly in love with somebody beautiful, outside and in, and I'm left a resentful and bitter husk of my former ebullient and spritely character; the long and arduous grey commute become my only time of solace and I take progressively longer and more diverse routes home, rather than spend a single minute more with the sour ghost of what was once my effigy of adoration, until one day I just disappear under the blackwall tunnel and decided to keep riding, keep riding away from the disappointment and smashed dreams and hopes, the faded memory of my past ambitions and fantasy spurring me on until I arrive, dazed in a distant Mediterranean shore and spend the rest of my wasted life selling dangerously bad beach massages to fat tourists.
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I hate having to work out logistics of where I'm going to leave my bike and when to take it and when to leave it, taking it on trains that never fucking work in an attempt to travel with her, and standing shivering at stations and bus stops waiting for her to catch up when I'm riding.
Do I buy her a bike so that she's forced to take it up, or will she resent being coerced into it? The commute wouldn't be far, from Fulham to Marble Arch.
She's a bit scared of traffic but otherwise healthy and athletic - how do I make her see it's not so bad out there and a lot easier than taking public shitting transport everywhere?
I suppose it would be better to arrange a dutch city bike or something less intimidatingly masculine as a racer?
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I thought this was low key for the brizzle kids and us? Or are we doing sightseeing on the sat?