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Also, i don't know if it's just me - but i really get bothered by 'nice men' who want to defend me. Your chivalry is misplaced. I know people on here are properly genuinely angry about abuse their partners and friends have received, but they might not (i'm not them so i don't know) really appreciate you taking to a d-lock to the perpetrator's face. Or even talking about it. I can't quite articulate why i get this rage when someone tries to stand up for me - maybe it's to do with it just being part of 'women are weak and need defending' thing, maybe it's because this crap happens all the time and is part of a pervasive .. something to do with how we live, and men don't often realise that and then get really worked up about something that happens. I don't know. I know there are women who can and will defend themselves, all power to them. That doesn't make me angry (although i'm not keen on a violence on stupidity solution). I'll stop now.

Most decent guys will want to do something if they see a woman being harassed by some guy(s), not necessarily because they are trying to be chivalrous, but because they think it is the right thing to do, and they would probably do the same thing if it was a bloke on his own.

The odd time I have seen this I have wondered whether I should do anything from exactly the comment you have made above. I have seen some student girl getting harrassed by some student guys and I have observed and seen whether the situation got the point where I thought I should do something.

I don't want to jump in a be a dick, and I don't want to let something bad happen by ignoring the event. So what I am I to do?

The one time I thought it did I just asked the girl whether she was alright and the guys fucked off once they saw me. I was scared shitless, there were 4 guys, I would have the shit kicked out of me if they turned nasty.

The thing is you sound is that if for example I did help you from your attitude, I would be scorned for it, and it puts genuinely nice people off from helping someone because they may over thinking things because they are worried not about giving aid they are starting to overthink the situation and less likely to do something beneficial.

I am not having a go or anything, I am just saying how I have felt about the same subject.