What would you do in my place?

^ What VeeVee said...

I have to say all of these "I'd want blood" comments are a bit ridiculous. It is a scummy thing to do, and I was angry at the faceless person who I blamed for taking away the love of my life at the time, and I also blamed him for destroying a perfect 6 year relationship.

But it's bollocks, isn't it? If any blame lies at all (which I don't think it does, but that's for another thread) it should be on the girl for allowing this situation to develop. But should there be blame on the guy she seduced? Or maybe her fiance for not being good enough?

I think trying to place blame is pretty useless in this situation.

this is best thread ever. Laughs a plenty.

Carson you must have a kangaroo loose in the top paddock to still be mulling this over, get rid: end of.

Its so scarily obvious.

dont zig when you should zag

remember you cant put the toothpaste back in the tube, you gotta pick the low hanging fruit or you gonna have one foot on the banana peel and one in the grave.

I know what your gonna say; dont pee on me and tell me its raining

but its sounds like you drinking a garlic milkshake.

bite the bullet and get out.

haha nice-

appologies for spewing this onto the forum but wasnt sure how to think any more - pretty much all the responses on here confirmed what i knew already. just had to be brave enough to realise it and end things. realised i wasnt losing anything as i didnt have it anyway, however much i wanted it.

so well done, despite my best efforts you might have saved a marriage -
feel like a bit of a tool tbh now.

finished it today.

Two pages and no Alis pretending to be either girl or girls boyfriend. Lfgss is slacking!

I agree with Hippy, Eiffel tower FTW, if your not up for that MG speaks the truth IMO.

As heartbreaking as it must be for you two I think that's the best.

Whether posting out of bravery, stupidity, or sheer hopelessness, I hope at least some of what's been said has been useful.

Good luck x

I have to say all of these "I'd want blood" comments are a bit ridiculous.

For the record I didn't mean actual violence or even aggression. It's an expression that I was using to mean 'really fucking angry'. Later on I'm sure I would question how I could have made it better.

Good man. It was the right decision

This is probably not the best time to reveal that my girlfriend was engaged to a bloke she had been with for 4 years when I came along and nabbed her off him.

He was a fucking bell-end though. It's not like she would have been happy with him.

For the record I didn't mean actual violence or even aggression. It's an expression that I was using to mean 'really fucking angry'.

Well in that case I retract my comments. Yes, you're bound to be angry, I remember being a horrible person to be around because of all the misplaced anger.

And that's it, really, it's misplaced. When you're that emotional it's be hard to make the right decision on who to be angry with.

Good man. It was the right decision

This is probably not the best time to reveal that my girlfriend was engaged to a bloke she had been with for 4 years when I came along and nabbed her off him.

He was a fucking bell-end though. It's not like she would have been happy with him.

Some mild overlappage is ok, though. Them's the rules.

Overlap = snake

Some mild overlappage is ok, though. Them's the rules.

Is it?

Overlap = snake

Good man. It was the right decision

This is probably not the best time to reveal that my girlfriend was engaged to a bloke she had been with for 4 years when I came along and nabbed her off him.

He was a fucking bell-end though. It's not like she would have been happy with him.

As I said before, it's the developing relationship thing that's key here. He isn't messing around with a dead-end, or 'bound to end up in a messy family/divorce eventually' relationship.

Though it has to be said she isn't helping things in that respect, I just think that relationship should run its course without outside interference. She should certainly review why she's getting married if this kind of thing is going on, but that's for her to do.

God you guys know a lot about someone you don't know!

Overlap seems rude to me.

God you guys know a lot about someone you don't know!

This is the internet, this is how it works.

@ balkers: I dunno, I'm old and married. I do think that people tend to come to a decision more quickly about finishing one thing when they have their eye on something else though – human nature, innit shrugs gallicly

Overlap is for spineless wankers...

God you guys know a lot about someone you don't know!

I'm speculating upon my own experiences, true.

This is the internet, this is how it works.

True, true. It is very amusing to read too.

@ balkers: I dunno, I'm old and married. I do think that people tend to come to a decision more quickly about finishing one thing when they have their eye on something else though – human nature, innit shrugs gallicly

Tsk, tsk, tsk...
logs off

I'm speculating upon my own experiences, true.

Your experiences about what other people think and feel?

Your experiences about what other people think and feel?

No, on what I think and feel after going through a similar experience.

Isn't that what ALL conversation is about?

Sorry if I missed something.

Overlap is for spineless wankers...

Agreed. No 'overlap' is ok. I'm no saint mind you.

She wants to be in a committed and long-lasting relationship, but you've both become really accustomed to each other, and occasionally have good, and or, comfy sex. You have never thought enough of her to get that serious, but now you're pondering possibilities, because she's accepted a proposal of marriage to someone else.

Have you made plans for her in a longterm committed kind of way, because that's what would be a substitute for what she would be giving up up she turned down her fiance, and returned to you? I doubt you have. Its just always been really comfy, and now you're about to lose it.

Let it go, she may not be as happy with him, as with you, but its her call, and you should respect it. If you want her, look at what she will hope for, and if you know in yourself that you can't be happy giving her what she would be losing, then why bother?

Many more women out there that may find you attractive, though till now, I've been convinced that you are a virgin.

If its fun and comfy sex you want, have it elsewhere, but if you care for her, respect her choice. Otherwise, you only care about yourself.