Missing friend

OK, so a very dear friend of mine has been missing for 6 months now, i say 6 months but he turned up at my gaff about 4 weeks ago, though in this time i am the only point of reference for his friends & family & nothing has been heard from or of him since.
He is/has been missing for too long & is mentally in a very dark place indeed.
Nigel;\that is his name, is apparently still in greater London & playing poker for a living , he was previously a courier & many of you will probably recognize his face. I know he is still riding around as when he visited me he told me he had left his bike locked in bayswater after drinking too much.
If you scroll down I have posted some pics of him, all i ask is that peeps watch out for his face, esp in central London as i know he is frequenting casinos in the w1 & w2 areas & if you do see him please PM me with the where abouts as we(I, his family and friends) are trying to put a plan into action.
this is an honest humble thread, I couldn't take jokes on this, he is my friend & he needs the love of his friends & family right now.

very sorry to hear this, it can't be easy. good luck with getting your friend back.

Don't know if you think it will help but the Big Issue has a section for Lost/Missing people, might be worth seeing if you can get a message up in there? I'd imagine with the coverage of Big Issue vendors spaced out across the city, it would cover a fair bit of ground.

I still need to post pics, Nigel was a courier until feb this year; He has done the DDm for the last 5 years & is quite a 'known' face at messenger events. I wish the normal routes would unearth things & thank you very much for the quick responses(i shouldn't post when i am tipsy & not so quick). this forum is amazing on many levels...I only hope that it helps me find & help my friend. Peace. X

I'm sorry to hear this, post pics when you can. x

I will, was just figuring that me & pooters don't mix so good. however am bound to feel diff sans hangover tomorrow & wil post pics of the man asap, he's been around so long someone must have seen him ...Thank you, all you loverly forum peeps. Xxx

hmmm, don't think that worked

^ Use the "Go advanced" reply button and you can add it as an attachment by clicking on the paperclip icon

hopefully this works. Thanks for the tip.

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His current ride is/was a grey cannondale fixie with a bit of gaffer tape artfully(not) covering logos.
Thanks for maxing the picture SUPERPRECISE, I'm pretty hopeless with computers.

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It is impossible to tell from your opening essay whether your friend has been sleeping rough or abusing drugs or really in serious need of mental/medical help.

Other than the fact he has been out of contact with you and may be gambling, could you tell from your brief recent meeting how has he been keeping?
Is he physically fit and does he have a place to stay?

I don't think it is helpful to start a forum thread unbeknownst to your friend unless he is immediately imperilled.

Hard as it may be, above exclusions permitted, you should leave him to lead his own life.

He's the one with the pint in hand on the left in this pic, it was taken a couple of years ago but he looks just the same. His sister & I were talking last night & i figured it wouldn't do any harm to try here, being a cycling community and all,(she is trying all other routes)someone may spot him & if they do please PM me with the where abouts.
Fingers X'd

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He's not sleeping rough, not on drugs aside from cider, has cash at his disposal....

I'm not some whining psycho girlfriend or ex girlfriend trying to find him, I'm just a truly concerned friend. So concerned that I've started a thread here on the off chance that anyone spots him. I don't want to drag some one's personal mental health issues all over a forum but knowing how his mind is, anything is worth a try. I would too, usually leave someone to live their own life & make their own choices but in this instance that is not an option.

Have you tried Moving Target ?

That is a good point, thanks. I will call Bill & see if he'll put a post up. Nigel last worked for creative couriers & most messengers that he was friends with are aware of the circumstances to some degree. Thank you again.

It is impossible to tell from your opening essay whether your friend has been sleeping rough or abusing drugs or really in serious need of mental/medical help.

Other than the fact he has been out of contact with you and may be gambling, could you tell from your brief recent meeting how has he been keeping?
Is he physically fit and does he have a place to stay?

I don't think it is helpful to start a forum thread unbeknownst to your friend unless he is immediately imperilled.

Hard as it may be, above exclusions permitted, you should leave him to lead his own life.

No, That isn't helpful and unnecessary^.

A guy is missing when everyone in their immediate circle hasn't heard from him for a good 6 months. Also when the last time people saw him he wasn't in the right frame of mind. Plus it seems everyone on this forum seems to have an eye for spotting strangers riding around town on bikes then maybe they'll be able spot Nigel.

If this guy has serious problems then none of that was made apparent in the initial post, a 'dark mindspace' doesn't reference a quantifiable mental health-issue.
If the guy is not of sound mind then sure, call out the extra eye-balls and post up pictures of him.

If the guy is of sound mind and just does not want to get in contact with his family and past associates then it should be his decision whether or not to be found.

Without more specific information in the original posting on a public forum you will have to expect people asking questions or having an opinion on the matter.

Hope the guy is ok no matter what, I've seen him around town in the past.

Ma3k, I understand your train of thought on this one and you are right, that it's a little strange to be posting about Nigel who clearly has cut off contact.

I know a bit of what was going on in Nigel's life just prior to his disapearance. I would expect the Goodedrunk was trying to protect his privacy by only calling it a "Dark Mindspace".

Nonetheless:
Like many, I care about Nigel and am concerned about his welbeing. I know he suffered a huge loss in his life right before he went missing. We had had conversations around this time that suggested he was both depressed and confused about life. He had mentioned feelings of wanting it all to end. I didn't know at that time if he was genuinely suicidal or not; I still don't I am not a doctor but he did sound desperate.

Nigel, if you read this - your family and friends have not forgotten you and we are worried.

Jacqui.
(ps. Nige I am eating apples today x)

I'll keep my eyes peeled - I've definitely seen him at least twice over the last few months - once on Tooley Street and once on Long Lane, SE1

It's hard to explain, to be sure.

It's not like Nigel got pissed off with us and stopped speaking...he just, disapeared. I think he probably does need help, but without knowing how to find him it's impossible to sit him down and figure out whats going on.

I can understand about why a person would disappear and not gettin in contact with their immediate friends/family after a huge loss. One of my closest friends went through this himself.
I think the OP is trying to make sure that they're okay somehow, and need to hear it from him if he needs his own space and time away.
I'll definitely keep my eyes open.

Edit: Not directed at anyone. Just putting my own thoughts here.

The reasons behind his disappearance have been explained to me by him on his visit & they chill me to the bone...for any other of his friends that may read this, he cares for you all deeply & this is part of his non contact as he doesn't wish for his friends to be upset. However, we clearly are, And Nige is battling with some things that are just too huge to disappear. The fact that he chose to make contact with me & spoke openly made me think he was returning, he even assured me that he would be round in the week. 4 weeks have passed & with what he spoke of, I'm done twiddling my thumbs but there's not a heck of a lot me or his family can do unless we are able to locate him.
Just Keep those eyes peeled.
Thanks again

maybe swing by the gutshot poker club in farringdon just up from the old metro building.
i have no idea how many of these places there are in london but it's possibly somewhere he could be spotted.