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Not knowing either of the individuals directly involved in this i'll only offer my personal opinion based on personal experience.
My dad was killed in the Gulf War back in 1991 and after operations were over there was a big rush and a lot of talk to try and get something organised immediately to help the families and the such in a time that was pretty dark for all involved. Whilst it was nice to know that people cared, what we all really wanted was a little time to take in what the hell had just happened, and also to try and work out what we were going to do from then on.
The Kuwaiti's were the ones who immediately went crazy donating a lot of money in a very short amount of time to say thanks for our efforts to help them, and slowly but surely the British public got involved and eventually there was a great deal of money but little plan of action to know what to do with it all.
It sat about for a couple of years before a decision was made to give portions of it directly to the families in a Fund format with each family receiving an annual amount to help them out; my mother used her slab to give myself and my two brothers a solid education (we'd moved around a great deal as kids), and also used some to help her retrain as a teacher so that she could get on with things now that she was expected to be the sole bread winner. It worked for us and for a lot of families actually sitting down and discussing what was better in the long term was better than the intial flood of gifts and presents we recieved. Whilst over the moon at the time, receiving a black binliner full of penny chews probably wasn't the best use of money in that situation. I did enjoy those jelly lips and chocolate buttons though!
I guess what I'm trying to say is that instead of rushing in and making a decision, it might be better to give it some time, and allow the family to sort something out. They might at the end of the day wish for nothing to happen and just to move along. Give the guy and the girls family a chance to breathe initially, don't immediately remind them of what has just happened.
It was actually the anniversary of my dads death on wednesday and I was down in St Pauls crypt at the Gulf memorial. Very sad to go from there to learn of someone on here having an experience of similar magnitude. Heart goes out to the guy, terrible news.