Owning your own home

We got a sun sail the other year, which was pretty effective but in totally the wrong position so we didn't use it.

Now we've redone the patio it falls in the right space but I need to buy a pole and work out how to mount.

If you go to tool station you can get turnbuckles and steel wire kits much cheaper than sail suppliers.

The challenges with a sail in the uk are wind and making sure they don't pool with water. I actually think knitted plastic would be more practical and probably give you the sort of shade you need in the UK. Not a specific recco, but this sort of stuff: Canopy Outdoor, Sun Shade Sails, Breathable Garden Sail Shade, Lightweight Garden Canopy, 90% Shading Rate UV-Resistant, Garden Awning, Sun Shades for Garden Patio Dogs Greenhouse - 2 X 3m https://amzn.eu/d/gJ1R9Vy

Yeah that's not confidence inspiring, is it?

Why wouldn't you do the whole thing when you've gone to the effort of setting up all your kit and materials on site?

Actually you know what? Can you bung them a bit of money to knock yours down and remove the waste. Then you can build your stock brick dream wall when you want

Yeah that's not confidence inspiring, is it?

No. Hugely convenient for them though, fuck everyone else, but also give them a job to do.

Can you bung them a bit of money to knock yours down and remove the waste. Then you can build your stock brick dream wall when you want

This would mean we wouldn't have a gate, and we still get lumped with having to retrospectively join two bits of wall which smells really bad IMHO. And this would be so far down my priorities right now it would never get done. I have a wall, and I like the money required to re-do it (and the entire front garden with it, because that's the implication of doing it) working for me elsewhere tbh. I just don't want to do it right now.

I've suggested they take all the shared wall down then re-instate our side to the existing level and re-attach the gate (or gatepost). I can live with red brick and coping stones if it's not going to cost me a lot and cause me loads of hassle.

I don't want to make their lives difficult but I don't want to feel like I've been mugged off when our wall collapses three months down the line thanks to their shitty work.

This is the issue, you're still concerned about being nice when your neighbour is being a twat. Just say you're not agreeing to anything without a party all agreement, your neighbour hasn't given you any reason to trust they'll sort you out if this random fucks your wall completely.

The fact that you've had conversations about this and your neighbour's just mugged you off is unbelievable. Can't believe how selfish some people are.

Can't believe how selfish some people are.

He's a bit of a nitwit and maybe slightly on the spectrum. He hasn't been well over the last couple of years either - cycling incident nearly killed him, had to be repatriated and everything - and he's only in his fifties. Harmless with a bit of an empathy deficit. I don't want to fuck them about and I hoped we could do with without the hassle / expense of a PWA.

Harmless with a bit of an empathy deficit.

Fair enough, better than malicious with an empathy deficit I guess.

This stuff just boils my piss. Having a front wall sorted should be one of the least stress inducing jobs you have done on the house (minus the financial side of course), ends up with a load of completely pointless stress.

I don't want to fuck them about and I hoped we could do with without the hassle / expense of a PWA.

Yeah, just a completely normal, neighbourly approach. Hope you can get it sorted.

Counter view: you and your neighbour have been arsing about over a job for ages. Through a contract you've been offered a good deal to get it done how you want.

Tbf it was all agreed and left with him to get quotes and a contractor .

But he didn’t do the leg work.

And now expects me to make his life easy when all the risk and no reward sit with me.

Through a contract you've been offered a good deal to get it done how you want.

Yeah your bit, with no offer to sort the other side out. If he'd have said I've got it all sorted you just need to pay that'd be a counter view.

Don't get me wrong, it's not what I'd do. But it's not like he's fucked your wife and filled your side of the wall with frozen sausages.

But it's not like he's fucked your wife

Well no, might be tighter neighbours if that was the set up?

I've not said anything to say the situation is some nightmare, but if you've got a relationship with your neighbour and have been talking about something and then your neighbour just fucks you over to make their life easier then that's pretty shit.

I don't understand this half wall business...

They are all much of a munchness, ady is the one a lot of the manufacturers use and supply if it comes with the boiler.

The cheap ones from Richmond’s I can’t mind the brand is the one we fit a lot and it’s decent.

Don't know if this is useful, but if it's a party wall, they have to make sure that the wall is constructed in the existing material (not sure if this is just your side or theirs as well).

Our neighbours were extending their kitchen, which included a party wall made of London yellow bricks and visible in our garden.

Their builder wanted to just do it in crappy bricks as it would only be us that saw it, so cheaper for his clients. The party wall surveyor made it clear that since the wall was there already, the whole (extended) thing would have to be made of the same material it is already made of.

Don't know if that's useful, but in any case insist on a full independent party wall surveyor (that they'll have to pay for) before anythings done.

Ta, but we sorted it. The whole shared section is being removed and replaced. It will be in their style, but at least it will be done and we won't be left with some dumb-ass join of two different walls now, and later on. They are gonna pay for it but I'll sling them the money for the bricks.

Storm in a tea-cup has passed.

Result. All without the use of sausages.

Thanks! I didn’t know adey, will give it a go. Thanks for all your help and suggestions across multiple threads

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I don’t understand who is going to pay that much money to live in that part of tower hamlets. Those houses always intrigued me though.

Is there some sort of architectal cache to the building? Sort of like a Warner house?

£66K

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/149063156#/?channel=OVERSEAS

Bloody Brexit😭

Right at the foot of the Col de Menté too.

To be honest, the last time I was in that area it was clear that the population was in a pretty steep decline, with lots of empty houses and closed businesses.