Inability to Sleep / Insomnia

Sleep hygiene is all well and good (I try as much as I can to be good with the points above) but my partner tosses, turns and kicks and bucks like she's in the final furlong at Cheltenham so yeah, separate rooms and beds is the way forward.

My GF has chronic back pain issues that made sleeping so fraught it developed into a nice anxiety driven inability to sleep if she even thinks she might get disturbed and not get back to sleep.

after a couple of years of trying to share a bed but ending up being kicked out onto the sofa bed at 3am I just conceded and slept on the sofa bed in the living room in our tiny 1 bed flat instead. wasn't the best on my back sometimes and meant I couldn't go to bed very early on the rare occasion I wanted to but we both got much better sleep.

we're renting outside of london now and both have our own rooms, now the dog and I sleep in the "guest room" and when we have guests visit I sleep on the day bed in my study which is a bit small for a fat git like me esp with the dog but it really is living the dream compared to the hell years of sharing a bed.

Awake from 2:30 to 5:00 last night, hoping for better tonight.

Two singles in the same room

Bit Mormon that, ain't it? It's an eminently sensible idea but she wouldn't go for it. Moving to a bigger place where she can have a dog and I get a separate bedroom is an easier sell!

I've been really interested in infant sleep (having had 2 kids) and the study of sleep in general wrt to myself. In my mat leave(s), I've been honing my sleep ability and I've been lucky to never have had the inability to sleep, rather it's my super power.
So been consuming this podcast recently and it's been really interesting.
https://open.spotify.com/show/1aIVAabjRjnmiouX0zCzF3?si=5a6ac14c00dd4a7e
https://www.sleepdiplomat.com/
(His huberman show is good too.)
Also Gina Poe has been really interesting - https://hubermanlab.com/dr-gina-poe-use-sleep-to-enhance-learning-memory-and-emotional-state/

I hope it helps someone out there.

2am seems like a good time to give that a listen.

Any good?

I went straight to the insomnia bit and just spent an hour listening to yoga nidra

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQgyoX-1qq0

with zero effect.

Alcohol works much better.

Plan early start. Get early night. Cue brain being fucking shitcunt for the first time in ages. Tried the breathing shit, tried the random thoughts thing. No dice.

Breath….