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Sorry to read about your situation, sounds rough.
How long have you had Daisy now? Nori is an ongoing project but it was at least 18 months before things really started to click for us. Whilst not in your situation currently it's something we've had to consider over recent years and it's very sobering to face up to the difference between could i look after her or should i look after her long term on my own. Whilst Nori can feel like a burden at times she has given me purpose and i whilst i swear she'd willingly leave with a burglar if they waved some skittles at her i think i'd untangle without the routine.
A big game changer has been finding some help locally. Not always easy to find but having that one morning or evening back for yourself will make a big difference. Is there anyone you could ask to dog sit once a week so the dog doesn't go to your ex's but you get some time out on the bike?
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At somewhat of a crossroads here with Daisy. I adopted her along with my now-ex partner. We live close and currently share the dog between us. She manages this okay, will typically be a little off for the first evening but then settles and is fine. The trouble is, this means seeing my ex on a very regular basis, which I absolutely would rather not do. Daisy has separation anxiety and works herself into a pretty manic panic after around 10 minutes or so alone. I'm working on this (10 mins is 10mins more than she used to manage) but consistency in training is hard across two households with poor communication, and obviously the stress-load from moving between two houses doesn't help with calm and measured absences.
So, facing down either sacrificing life for a period, to see if I can commit fully to Daisy and create something livable with her, or sacrificing the dog. Coming out of a 12 year relationship has been shite and I really want to throw myself back into music, bikes and maybe even some dating.
I don't know.