I want to get a dog but I have to work, how does everyone on broadway market do it ?

Lol at the blonde dog who didn’t smile for the camera.

Stella takes her roles of Mother Of 3, Senior Dog and Supreme Tyrant very seriously.

At somewhat of a crossroads here with Daisy. I adopted her along with my now-ex partner. We live close and currently share the dog between us. She manages this okay, will typically be a little off for the first evening but then settles and is fine. The trouble is, this means seeing my ex on a very regular basis, which I absolutely would rather not do. Daisy has separation anxiety and works herself into a pretty manic panic after around 10 minutes or so alone. I'm working on this (10 mins is 10mins more than she used to manage) but consistency in training is hard across two households with poor communication, and obviously the stress-load from moving between two houses doesn't help with calm and measured absences.
So, facing down either sacrificing life for a period, to see if I can commit fully to Daisy and create something livable with her, or sacrificing the dog. Coming out of a 12 year relationship has been shite and I really want to throw myself back into music, bikes and maybe even some dating.
I don't know.

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Side note - it's been lovely logging back in and reading updates about the dogs of lfgss and seeing the new additions

I have a friend who was in a similar situation, their partner shared custody of a dog with an ex. Let me just say it wont do your future dating situation any favours if you share custody.

My whippet has pretty bad separation anxiety, which if it was just me would make my life miserable.

There's no right answer to this, but this is my experience. I broke up with my ex and 2 dogs. Despite the fact that they were closer to me, it made sense that they stayed with her (same place, I travelled with work, I went to live on a boat). We agreed I would still regularly have the dogs.

Despite very much being the reason for the split, she took every opportunity to use the dogs to punish me for leaving. She'd cancel at the last minute, change arrangements or just not let me see them for weeks and weeks at a time. (all while I was paying £200 a month for their upkeep)

This was all at a time when I was at a very low ebb, and friends told me the right thing to do was say goodbye to my boys. I couldn't do that, and tbh suffered a lot mentally during that period - the dogs were effectively my lifebelt and when I didn't have any certainty about seeing them again, I was pretty untethered.

It honestly took a couple of years for her to fully come to her senses, but we're fine now (she met someone and got married in 3 mths, if that counts as coming to her your senses). I'm currently at my desk with both of them (and my other dog with my new partner) at my feet. Life is sweet, though the journey was a trial.

The dogs have a bit of separation anxiety, but are fine with either of us, and were chill with moving between properties though, so there were no issues with their goodwill.

Beautiful dog! nothing of any use to suggest re your situation so just sending some internet vibes.

Let me just say it wont do your future dating situation any favours if you share custody.

Right?! Beyond not wanting to see her, the regular contact is just problematic.

Part of me thinks taking the dog on alone might be the kick that's needed to properly try and address the separation anxiety - when there's time without her coming up it's easy to slack on the training, just jam the plans into that period and then have wholesome dog time when she lives with me. It would be entirely miserable on the whole though.

Thank you 💖 your pup looks amazing, excited to see it grow up

Thank you for this, it's helpful to hear other similar situations. Upkeep payments is an idea I've floated for if one of us takes her on full-time, it could help loads with booking sitters to escape from time to time.
Glad to hear you came through it! And that the dogs were and are happy

Thanks man! He's doing great, just past 11 weeks now so very pleased that house arrest is pretty much over, had our first pub trip yesterday. He got overwhelmed and slept 🤣 he's doing well with training and generally a sweetheart but his mad moments are intense, his teeth sharp and his will strong so very much hoping this 'phase' is only that and we move past it. He's also doubled in size in three weeks and is definitely going to be big.

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He's a big boy for 11 weeks!

Yup, the deerhound genes coming out pretty strong!

Sorry to read about your situation, sounds rough.

How long have you had Daisy now? Nori is an ongoing project but it was at least 18 months before things really started to click for us. Whilst not in your situation currently it's something we've had to consider over recent years and it's very sobering to face up to the difference between could i look after her or should i look after her long term on my own. Whilst Nori can feel like a burden at times she has given me purpose and i whilst i swear she'd willingly leave with a burglar if they waved some skittles at her i think i'd untangle without the routine.

A big game changer has been finding some help locally. Not always easy to find but having that one morning or evening back for yourself will make a big difference. Is there anyone you could ask to dog sit once a week so the dog doesn't go to your ex's but you get some time out on the bike?

Let the dog go(to your ex) and move on with your life. Sure it'll hurt, but less than the ongoing pain.

those are the most unbelievably cute pics

Cheers buddy, he's really cute when he's not going insane! Taking him camping this weekend, wanted to celebrate the end of house arrest and the forecast looks good. Reckon it will either be amazing or he'll puncture our airbed/eat our faces overnight....

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No way such a charming pup would do any such thing.

He'll eat the airbed and puncture your faces.

Can someone offer a quick psychological insight as to why my 7 year old terrier has started to lose his shit with every car that passes us on the way to the park?
When he was small it was cyclists but he got over that but large trucks and buses he’s always had a bark at. But recently it’s escalated, could it be boredom with the school drop routine?

is it all cars, cars from behind or cars from ahead?

I was wondering if their sight or hearing may be deteriorating, so cannot see/ hear them coming and then gets mental when they sneak up?

Im 99% sure it’s neither eyes or ears, it’s worse with cars behind but tbh it’s everything on the way to the park. It feels like an extension of the brave terrier thing when they go mental at big dogs but only if everyone’s on a lead, he barely acknowledges other dogs if off lead.
Also he rarely does this on the return leg (unless bus or bin lorry) so I guess it’s a bit of pent up pre-park angst.

Deerhound crosses can get rather large. This is mine next to my other lurcher. He’s collie height for perspective.

If I get him to stand up to see how tall he is he’s eye level with me (nearly 6ft).

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Yep, eyes fully open to that don't worry! Lovely brindle like mine - any other pics?

strange.
If it was younger I'd say go through exposure therapy
I am aware of regressions as 1, 2 and 3 years old but not sure 7 i'd expect it.

We've mostly been about ears recently

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