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If you are aiming that at me, I wasn't suggesting you had mental health issues at all and I apologise if it came across like that.
But clearly there is an imbalance in your relationship about what constitutes an acceptable living environment and if your efforts to address that with your girlfriend are proving to be unsuccessful, then you need some outside assistance to help. Otherwise it will have a negative impact on your relationship that will continue until it is addressed.
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fuck off, I put a lot of effort into making our home a nice place to live, I'm just asking to be met 80% of the way in return.
Wasn't suggesting you had mental health issues, I was making light of your situation by suggesting that your ranty post was the result of built up lockdown stress, for which I apologise.
And yeah, can recognise a lot of what you just described in our household. It used to wind me up but after a while I realised how my wife reciprocates and contributes to our shared life in other ways.
The solution for us was to talk about it.
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fuck off, I put a lot of effort into making our home a nice place to live, I'm just asking to be met 80% of the way in return.
this past week alone I spent 4 mornings and evenings getting our place tidy, organised and decorated for christmas while my gf was on holiday because she's hosting 6 of her friends on the 10th for a "friends christmas", I replaced the coat rail under the stairs because my gf had jammed 12 heavy coats on there and it collapsed under the weight so I put up a nice freestanding one to keep our day to day coats on and made a space for a heavier duty rail in the wet room by the back door (about 5m away) to hold the rest, I got the shoe rack to tidy up the hallway and keep the door clear because it was literally stopping me from using the front door properly, I cleared space under the stairs to store bags where they don't have to be moved every time to sit down. I purchased a whole bunch of new things for the kitchen to improve the decor and handle the mess it generates based on our daily useage.
the place is spotless, tidy and well organised. pardon me if I think it's a bit shitty to just dump your shit wherever you feel like it ignoring the hard work your partner has put into making it look like that.
it's frankly quite fucked up that you're suggesting I have mental health issues because I'm asking for literally the smallest amount of consideration to help keep the house tidy so I don't have to constantly move random shit out of my way every time I want to sit down or use the kitchen.