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  • Also lastname remains horrible patriarchal bullshit in my mind. I'm amazed so many women continue to take their husbands name on marriage.

    Often it is easier, especially with children involved. Or, to put it the other way, keeping a maiden name can introduce a whole load of difficulties.

    Various friends have children with different surnames to a parent and it's a considerable pain in the arse at various borders/hotels/etc.

    Using a shortened first name is tricky enough for me. My birth certificate and health records don't match my passport/driving-license/etc which is fine most of the time but causes problems with Covid/travel related things.

    P.S. Fuck the Tories.

  • Often it is easier, especially with children involved. Or, to put it the other way, keeping a maiden name can introduce a whole load of difficulties.

    My wife and I don't have matching surnames and haven't found it a problem. I'm sometimes called Mr Wife but it doesn't really matter. We haven't had problems at borders and hotels don't usually give a damn!

  • Has your wife travelled abroad with your kids and without you?

    It also makes a difference if your kids are a different skin tone to their mum with a different surname.

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