NotThamesWater-
Isn't just that a woman can do it FOC but a man has to pay? Or did I hear that wrong? Not that it would be a strong enough deterrent for a couple wanting to do it that way, but if it's correct it's a baked in aspect of patriarchy.
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When my wife went to her consulate after we got married to update her paperwork, she was informed that her new name was Mrs [Father’s Surname] [Mother’s Surname] de [Rodan]. She was taken aback that she didn’t have a choice, but it’s standard for some South American countries.
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Just to point out that either partner can change their name when they marry.
But if a wife takes her husbands name the marriage certificate is the only paperwork needed. The other way it's deed poll time (not that that is especially difficult).
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Often it is easier, especially with children involved. Or, to put it the other way, keeping a maiden name can introduce a whole load of difficulties.
Various friends have children with different surnames to a parent and it's a considerable pain in the arse at various borders/hotels/etc.
Using a shortened first name is tricky enough for me. My birth certificate and health records don't match my passport/driving-license/etc which is fine most of the time but causes problems with Covid/travel related things.
P.S. Fuck the Tories.