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is there any point?
That is a very difficult and personal question that other people are likely to have their own opinions on base don their family, but they mean fuck all to you, your Dad and your family. You will maybe already know what your Dad would rather do. Or you have an idea and are seeking validation, which is completely understandable.
will I cause more pain to him?
That is definitely something you can speak to the care home or medical staff about minimising as much as possible.
I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope everything goes as well as it can do for everyone.
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Do you have family you can discuss this with rather than the internet?
I'm sorry you are having to live with such a choice. I hope you can be at peace with your final decision.
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Stopping eating can very much be part of the closing down process. In some ways it's the only thing that the person doing it can control.
Everyone makes different decisions about how to approach this but my own was that it does prolong suffering to intervene. It's still a very difficult process to witness.
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I remember my Aunt saying "just let me go". She didn't want her life prolonged. It was so sad to hear it. But she was mentally 100%. Everyone has to go. Most of us can't choose when. I'm afraid I'm ducking your question because I shouldn't interfere. I don't think any of us should, but we all hope you can be at peace with what happens.
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I have a bed bound, slightly demented, 85 year old, dad who is now dying, the end of life care plan was agreed last week. They have been losing weight as they don’t want to eat and are now down to 49kgs. The home he is in were talking about increasing his dietary supplement but, realistically, is there any point? He won’t get better, get out of bed or walk, am I prolonging things or will I cause more pain to him? I thought stopping eating was part of the closing down process.