you shouldn't tell a kid he doesn't have it, because you never now what will happen.
I agreed with that to a certain extent, I didn't say otherwise. My point is that it is disingenuous at best, and at worst a lie, to tell a kid that if they work harder than anyone else they can do anything. They can't. Sport is littered with resentful coulda shoulda woulda young adults who believed they were going to be pro and didn't make it, so quit. It's far more healthy to have realistic aims and be encouraged to enjoy the sport, no matter what their inherent ability is.
I agreed with that to a certain extent, I didn't say otherwise. My point is that it is disingenuous at best, and at worst a lie, to tell a kid that if they work harder than anyone else they can do anything. They can't. Sport is littered with resentful coulda shoulda woulda young adults who believed they were going to be pro and didn't make it, so quit. It's far more healthy to have realistic aims and be encouraged to enjoy the sport, no matter what their inherent ability is.