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It’s a special kind of personal bureaucracy that’s incredibly frustrating to be a third party to.
My parents exhibit similar behaviour. They’ll decide to do something a certain way and then, despite any information that subsequently becomes available, they’ll steadfastly stick to the initial plan even as it becomes increasingly difficult to do so and making a small tweak could make everything a lot easier
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I was on my way up to my Mum's ( early 90s - age) to help her out with a few things one of which was to do a bit of shopping and cook us a meal . I ran the list of ingredients I needed for the meal past her one of which was dried thyme ...
Me -"do you have dried thyme ?"
M - "Oh yes "
Cooking starts and I find the thyme - a little jar with a homemade label dated in faded handwriting - 1980 .
I love them dearly and they are having to deal with some really awful news at the minute and I'm here to support them, but the levels of low- to medium-grade WTF in their day to day domestic arrangements are off the scale.
They get ideas in their heads, and it's like they run with the idea in a sort of pure platonic way rather than considering it as part of a home that needs to function. Kind of like the broomsticks in the sorcerer's apprentice, once they start doing a thing (eg keeping a free pen because it's useful) their reality is that all free pens have to be kept. And then there are boxes and boxes of pens and they have to keep finding new places to "tidy" the pens to instead of JUST REALISING THEY HAVE ENOUGH PENS AND NOT KEEPING ANY MORE!
Mum read once that fruit keeps better if it's not touching. So she started keeping fruit spaced out on a serving plate. But she'll buy more fruit than fit on the plate so it evolved into a hamlet of odd serving dishes holding spaced out fruit on the sideboard, and now I find that this has happened and I can see exactly how a multi story fruit rack looks like a good solution once you are in the hamlet of fruit plates stage, but if you went back to the start it's not something you'd ever decide to do. (And in a few weeks we'll have a multi story fruit rack AND a new fruit plate hamlet)
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