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provide for their hobbies and take them on holiday.... Maybe put the money aside for when it matters, ie supporting your child to be comfortable in university and post university to pursue further education or lucrative job opportunities which don’t make any real sense but will grow them as people.
So using your wealth to secure advantages for your kids is morally OK as long as it's spent on these things. Got it.
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Yeah, if you can’t tell the difference between a perpetual system of unequal schooling based solely on exclusion and historical elitism vs paying for your kid to do karate lessons on a whim and not having to work 20 hours in a supermarket a week I don’t know what to tell you lol
We do live in a society, but we can choose not to engage with the worst parts of it
Maj
You can absolutely, 100% and without any hint of regret, jealousy, class anxiety, snobbery judge someone or their parents for going/ sending their kid to private school, hell even a grammar school.
You can make well reasoned arguments for how the outcomes are similar for comp and private/ grammar when adjusted for social factors in the uk, even better for comp in some cases, you can make further arguments how the institutions are discriminatory and actively hurt comp students. One could even suggest they hurt the private school students too.
But above all, morally, Shits archaic, the only logical argument paying for them is for the school name on the kids background to which a future employer may double look at their cv (as long as they have a good Christian name and are not a woman). Going there isn’t even a multiplier for your kids success if you’re some middle manager IT goon struggling to send your kid private, you’re never going to be invited down the local conservative meeting for crackers or some shit. it might impress your reports who “wish they could work to be in your position one day, sending their kids to private school and some mid level 3 series”. but that private school committee is going to milk you for all you got and not even remember your kids name when the fees stop, they’re poaching the fat cats, socialites, and celebs, they couldn’t care about some white collar schmuck
You’re mugging yourself off. And your kids going to get bullied, Rightfully, when they end up in the same fucking mid table red brick uni and some comprehensive Chad finds out half way through the ring of fire and proclaims, very loudly that your kid is dumb as fuck and shat themselves last night while ringing “mother” that they’d spent the terms stipend. Another, comprehensive queen will then shout “I saw them fucking Googling “what is a Tory!”, they’ll resent themselves and you. It will be very funny for all involved outside of that.
You could, instead of course, recognise a child's outcome is much more reliant on the resources and personal care afforded them, send them to the local comp, take an interest in what they want to do, provide for their hobbies and take them on holiday, let them be surrounded by a bunch of people, maybe even let them fuck up, be a bit of a dick. Maybe put the money aside for when it matters, ie supporting your child to be comfortable in university and post university to pursue further education or lucrative job opportunities which don’t make any real sense but will grow them as people. At the end of the day, if your kid has someone with private school money for a parent, they’re going to just fine. So why engage in a system that’s only there to fuck over everyone else in some weird fucked up hunger games. I mean, ofc you might agree that fucked up hunger games is “actually good”, but if that’s you? Your kid has other problems bigger than school.
Plenty of issues with comps, catchments, and funding inequality etc, private and grammar solves none of this, sending your kid to your local comp does.