Seat binder should be about 6.5nm max (m6 / ungreased). Stem wedge bolt about 14-16nm (m8). Bar bolts probably 4-6nm depending on size, and (more importantly) bar material, thinking of a removable clamp stem here, not sure about pinch bolt type.
Way too much - I use about 4 Nm. I generally adhere to the philosophy that when clamping around cylinders you want to use as little torque as will keep your part where you want it under normal use. You don't want to crush anything.
What torque does one use on a steel frame? I'm running about 8Nm on the seat post and on the stem/handlebar - too much? Too little?