1 - It's quite difficult to define something as lost, if you believe you still have it somewhere, ergo need to 'dig it out', even if ultimately you end up unable to find it.
2- One postage week is well within the bounds of reason to wait for something to arrive from a private sale on a forum, this isn't Amazon.
3- It seems pretty rough to assume bad faith given that you've been refunded. FWIW I'd have definitely wanted to hang on for a while longer before writing off £160 as a seller.
From a non invested perspective.
1 - It's quite difficult to define something as lost, if you believe you still have it somewhere, ergo need to 'dig it out', even if ultimately you end up unable to find it.
2- One postage week is well within the bounds of reason to wait for something to arrive from a private sale on a forum, this isn't Amazon.
3- It seems pretty rough to assume bad faith given that you've been refunded. FWIW I'd have definitely wanted to hang on for a while longer before writing off £160 as a seller.