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@lynx
Have had a few drinks, so take what I say with a pinch of salt...proper sea salt none of this processed anti caking agent added salt.
Your friend sounds like he is quite far on the scale, and remember that we are all on that autism scale. But also that not one of us, so far, has any qualification to state that they are on any scale. Have had the joy of working with some people that seem to (unprofessional) me to be on the scale but then there is the thin line of peoplw who don't suffer fools.
Worked , for a short time, with an automotive engineer that I was told was the most obnoxious guy you could ever met. When we worked together on a project, and I found him brilliant to work with. Very strange in that he had 15 work days worth of clothes, each day was the same jacket shirt and trousers. Each cleaned and worn in rotation, till he would go out and buy the same 15 work outfits. Quite einstienesque. But his knowledge on the topics we worked on were correct and brilliant. Suspect he was a little alcoholic as did enjoy johny walker black label together.
The thing is that even with a diagnosis for your friend, will it change him? Would he even notice that he is the issue. You can't force change in others, you can only change yourself. This is the bit I have greatest difficulty with. If you figure it out, tell me and I can make my fortune on the self help and talkshow circuit. Enjoy the 95 and try to over look the 5%, as I get older I'm more 5% joy to be around and 95% troubling to be around.
One person I worked with, was diagnosed autistic. When I got to know him, he had worked out many strategies of how to deal with people. One of which was when he was asked how he was, he would answer I am alright and you. With the very english faining that they listened but never mentioned anything in the information that was replied to. He found me confusing, as he told me later, as I would invite him to things he had never eaten with my comments of if you like this food you would love dimsum/proper kebab/indian food. The lets go and eat food over lets go and get drunk.