If someone is saying to you that they feel hurt by your actions, especially if it is a person of colour telling a white, middle class male that what they said was racist, it would take a monumental amount of blind privilege to try to discuss anything other than "fuck, you're right, sorry".
saying that there was no racist intent behind something is a perfectly valid thing to say.
If someone is saying to you that they feel hurt by your actions, especially if it is a person of colour telling a white, middle class male that what they said was racist, it would take a monumental amount of blind privilege to try to discuss anything other than "fuck, you're right, sorry".
Still not an apology.