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I don’t get the impression that @Señor_Bear meant to cause such upset by posting a poor taste joke.
I took his enquiry re why “gammon” as a term is tolerated here to be genuine and not simply stirring.
To recap, a person told him "I am personally upset by this rape joke you posted" and then a second person said "I am personally upset by your homophobic retort to being told off for posting a rape joke" and he continued to insult people and insist they were overreacting.
It's nice to assume the best of other people - you know, maybe he didn't realise (?!) that joke would upset people. But that becomes quite difficult as soon as you insult someone who tells you they're upset about a thing you did. Pretty sure you lose your entitlement to a good-faith debate after that.
I mean on this same page he's said "delete your account" in response to someone saying "this thread is read by rape victims you know IRL". What defense is there for that?
Edit: ^ what @salmonchild said. Except the bit about moth memes, I hated those.
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What defense is there for that?
The presumption that this thread is implicitly subtitled "Enter at your own risk". "Delete your account" is just a hyperbolic way of saying "ignore this thread". Even within the very narrow bounds of taste and decency permitted by the admin, there is likely to be material here which some people find upsetting or offensive.
We're all supposed to be grown-ups, so we can draw our own conclusions about whether people are being gratuitously offensive, thoughtless or thoughtfully challenging, and equally we can form our own opinions about whether the responses emerge from authentic distress or right-on posturing.
gbj_tester
The place has changed significantly, I seem to to remember lots of paedo bear jokes etc when I first joined. There used to be many more off key posts and that rough and tumble humour was part of the forum. Over time this has changed and I think a few of us have been caught off guard as social standards have changed (and generally improved). These days we are a much more informed and possibly less exclusive bunch of people.
I don’t get the impression that @Señor_Bear meant to cause such upset by posting a poor taste joke.
I took his enquiry re why “gammon” as a term is tolerated here to be genuine and not simply stirring. However I can see how the continued aggression towards him might make it harder for him to back. It is sad to see how the aggressive divisive tone of public discussion has become so entrenched here too.