Yeah, always made a big deal of birthdays, they drove 3 hours each way to give my dad's best friend his 60th birthday present, for instance. It's pretty much the reason I'm upset and why it's about effort rather than money or what gift it was.
We have a good relationship, which again is why it's so confusing. Initially, I thought it was them being deliberately stand offish before doing something they normally would.
Let it go. I can't see a scenario where a 30/40 year old getting upset with his mum and dad for not making a bigger deal for his birthday is going to end up with anything positive.
There are all sorts of reasons that they might have had to have not been able to do more.
Yeah, always made a big deal of birthdays, they drove 3 hours each way to give my dad's best friend his 60th birthday present, for instance. It's pretty much the reason I'm upset and why it's about effort rather than money or what gift it was.
We have a good relationship, which again is why it's so confusing. Initially, I thought it was them being deliberately stand offish before doing something they normally would.