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Yeah, always made a big deal of birthdays, they drove 3 hours each way to give my dad's best friend his 60th birthday present, for instance. It's pretty much the reason I'm upset and why it's about effort rather than money or what gift it was.
We have a good relationship, which again is why it's so confusing. Initially, I thought it was them being deliberately stand offish before doing something they normally would.
Col-De-Camberwell-
What's done is done. Anything you guilt them into will be hollow and meaningless as the moment has gone. Cut them out of your life forever or say fuck it, it was just another day like any other really (and then cut them from your life).
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Let it go. I can't see a scenario where a 30/40 year old getting upset with his mum and dad for not making a bigger deal for his birthday is going to end up with anything positive.
There are all sorts of reasons that they might have had to have not been able to do more.
Constable_Savage
Hovis
People have different standards as to what is an appropriate way to celebrate. Have your parents previously made a big deal about birthdays? If not, no reason to be surprised.
Do you have an otherwise good relationship with them?
If so, is it worth it to pursue the issue?