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  • Does seem very strange that a 'rape victim' would be sexually active again 2 weeks after the alleged attack

  • She didn't bring the complaint, or whatever the technical term is.

    Also, that kind of opinion can fuck right off.

    How long do you think is "proper"? How long would not cast doubt, for you? How the fuck can you know?

  • Does it?

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    Wow. You're just covering yourself in glory, aren't you.

  • Does seem very strange that a 'rape victim' would be sexually active again 2 weeks after the alleged attack

    Just for a more measured response/explanation...

    The reason what you wrote got everyone's goat is that it came across as though you're judging her on her sexual behaviour with (I presume) no knowledge of the the personalities of the people involved. Putting rape victim in quotes reads as patronising, even if that's not what you intended and uses the same style of language as a lot of rape apologists.

    I understand how initially you might think that someone who is the victim of sexual assault wouldn't want sex that soon after the event. But it's not that simple. Also from what I understand of the story this happened during what started out as consensual sex, which I could imagine might make someones feelings about the event incredibly complicated.

  • Does seem very strange that a 'rape victim' would be sexually active again 2 weeks after the alleged attack

    Some people deal with trauma by repeating the experience. They do the same (or as close as possible to the same) thing again (and over again) that traumatised them in the hope that it'll seem normal and nothing to worry about. That generally doesn't work for very serious trauma, I think. It can also take a long time, sometimes years, for a person to fully realise the impact of a traumatic experience, if they ever do.

    I'm not saying any of that applies in this case, of which I have little knowledge beyond reading the secretbarrister link that MrDrem posted.

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