Might be worth looking towards hand built wheels. If you find a good wheel builder they shouldn't go out of true as fast and better accommodate your err build. They will be the weak link of whatever you ride and give you the most hassle if you are forever in and out of bike shops getting them made true again. Beyond that it's about what fits you, I'm guessing you went "hybrid" as you wanted flatbar and not hunched over on dropbars. Suspension forks if they don't have a lockout will make your ride feel longer as energy goes into them bumping up and down even on flat clean roads, if your bike doesn't fit no amount of suspension or gel saddles or whatever will ease the pains it causes.
Might be worth looking towards hand built wheels. If you find a good wheel builder they shouldn't go out of true as fast and better accommodate your err build. They will be the weak link of whatever you ride and give you the most hassle if you are forever in and out of bike shops getting them made true again. Beyond that it's about what fits you, I'm guessing you went "hybrid" as you wanted flatbar and not hunched over on dropbars. Suspension forks if they don't have a lockout will make your ride feel longer as energy goes into them bumping up and down even on flat clean roads, if your bike doesn't fit no amount of suspension or gel saddles or whatever will ease the pains it causes.