This morning's commute (the 'ugh' edition)

It can actually be meant as a compliment!

If you step on my foot, you need to get off my foot.
If you step on my foot without meaning to, you need to get off my foot.
If you step on my foot without realizing it, you need to get off my foot.
If everyone in your culture steps on feet, your culture is horrible, and you need to get off my foot.
If you have foot-stepping disease, and it makes you unaware you’re stepping on feet, you need to get off my foot. If an event has rules designed to keep people from stepping on feet, you need to follow them. If you think that even with the rules, you won’t be able to avoid stepping on people’s feet, absent yourself from the event until you work something out.
If you’re a serial foot-stepper, and you feel you’re entitled to step on people’s feet because you’re just that awesome and they’re not really people anyway, you’re a bad person and you don’t get to use any of those excuses, limited as they are. And moreover, you need to get off my foot.

See, that’s why I don’t get the focus on classifying harassers and figuring out their motives. The victims are just as harassed either way.

(Hershele Ostropoler, in a comment on John Scalzi’s blog post, “Readercon, Harassment, Etc.” )

To the above list, please also add "if you step on my foot as a gesture of appreciation for how incredible my arse/tits/whatever are, you need to get off my foot".

I'm sorry that you haven't read any of the links that have been provided. I'm also sorry that you don't understand the posts that we've made.

I'm sorry that we have a culture in which people can justify their own shitty behaviour and that of others by saying "but wait! Maybe my hidden intention makes this shitty behaviour magically not-shitty!"

Congratulations for being complicit in that.