• Actual OED:
    a. Chiefly colloq. A girl or woman exhibiting characteristics associated with a cat, esp. sweetness or amiability. Freq. used as a pet name or as a term of endearment. Cf. puss n.1 3, pussycat n. 3.

    • c1557–65 in T. Wright Songs & Ballads (1860) lxxiv. 209 Adew, my pretty pussy, Yow pynche me very nere.
    • 1583 P. Stubbes Anat. Abuses sig. Hv, You shall haue euery sawcy boy..to catch vp a woman & marie her... So he haue his pretie pussie to huggle withall, it forceth not.
    • 1836 Thackeray Let. 2 July (1945) I. 314 How have you passed the night dear Pussy?
    • 1852 H. B. Stowe Uncle Tom's Cabin I. xvi. 266 ‘What do you think, pussy?’ said her father to Eva.
    • 1932 A. Christie Thirteen Probl. xi. 193 ‘The dame de compagnie, you described, I think, as a pussy, Mrs. Bantry?’ ‘I didn't mean a cat, you know,’ said Mrs. Bantry. ‘It's quite different. Just a big soft white purry person. Always very sweet.’
    • 1941 A. Christie N or M? iii. 38 Old boarding-house pussies. Nothing to do but gossip and knit.
    • 1952 M. Tripp Faith is Windsock iv. 73 ‘Your rear gunner is a hit with the ladies.’ ‘Jake knows how to make the pussies purr; it's an old Jamaican custom.’
      [1959 M. Richler Apprenticeship Duddy Kravitz i. ix. 50 Milty ran off crying... ‘What is it, pussy-lamb?’]
    • 1986 D. Potter Singing Detective ii. 45 But tonight there isn't a pussy in sight. Not even a four-legged one. All good people have gone home.


    b. slang (chiefly N. Amer.). A sweet or effeminate male; (in later use chiefly) a weakling, a coward, a sissy. Also: a male homosexual.
    In quot. 1904: a man likened to a house-cat; a dependent or ‘domesticated’ man.

    • 1904 ‘M. Corelli’ God's Good Man xxi, I shall invite Roxmouth and his tame pussy, Mr. Marius Longford.
    • 1925 S. Lewis Martin Arrowsmith vi. 65 You ought to hear some of the docs that are the sweetest old pussies with their patients—the way they bawl out the nurses.
    • 1934 M. H. Weseen Dict. Amer. Slang 193 Pussy, an effeminate boy.
    • 1958 L. Durrell Mountolive viii. 157 ‘I first met Henry James in a brothel in Algiers. He had a naked houri on each knee.’ ‘Henry James was a pussy, I think.’
    • 1967 ‘iceberg slim’ Pimp v. 103 Look Preston, I got lots of heart. I'm not a pussy. I been to the joint twice. I did tough bits, but I didn't fall apart.
    • 1972 T. O'brien Combat Zone 45 You afraid to be in the war, a goddamn pussy?
    • 1988 J. D. Pistone & R. Woodley Donnie Brasco 119 If he beat me up or cut me, then I would be a pussy in everybody's eyes.
    • 1993 G. Donaldson Ville 20 He believes the only thing worse than being a pussy is being a big pussy.
      2004 J. Meno Hairstyles of Damned 125, I..wanted to ask her to Homecoming, but I was a pussy and embarrassed about being in love with her because she was fat.
  • There's no etymological information in your citation, nor indeed any reference at all to the term as used offensively, so while I am happy to concede that you are an authority on your second and third assertions, I await a more robust reference for the first.

    Or, given that the term is widely understood and used as being offensive, we should just let it go.

  • we should just let it go.

    Giving up on an argument? Pussy.

  • Did you read this part? Are you familiar with the OED?

    b. slang (chiefly N. Amer.). A sweet or effeminate male; (in later use
    chiefly) a weakling, a coward, a sissy. Also: a male homosexual. In
    quot. 1904: a man likened to a house-cat; a dependent or
    ‘domesticated’ man.

    1904 ‘M. Corelli’ God's Good Man xxi, I shall invite Roxmouth and his
    tame pussy, Mr. Marius Longford.

    I don't think it is a rad term to throw around, for what it's worth. Especially since the modern-day thrower arounder isn't thinking about cats.

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