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Tension is load, whether it is transmitted via a big or a tiny spoke is the same... or is it too early in the morning to compute? I certainly never noticed big differences in tensions when I built wheels with chunky spokes on the DS and tiny on the NDS.

I have always found that any wheel with an offset (cassette or rotor) will have a side which is more highly tensioned than the other and therefore under more load/tension. sarcasm
And that, while all spokes under the same tension are indeed equally tense, the power needed to cause that is not.
I have found that a rim can 'lean' to one side when one side has a higher tension, leading to tyre wear that is off to one side of the centreline.
So while doing some research I found that some builders used different techniques in lacing or spoke thickness's to create a more balanced tension on both sides, but as with most things in wheel building of course, others do not.
David C R Hunt is, off the top of my head, one of the ones that does.
So after talking to him and a few other builders, I've started experimenting for myself, first using straight gauge spokes on the higher tension side and DB on other thinking straight gauge would be stiffer, which was a total failure of course, but live and learn, which was the point in the first place.
My last build I had wanted to try and push it again by building with DT Aerolite laced 3x to the normally higher tension sides, and Sapim CX-Ray laced 2x the others, as although the cross sectional areas of both spokes are the same, DT supposedly use a stronger alloy.
This was to be an experiment in usable minimalism, taking away from where it wouldn't make much difference to make a functionally equally as strong wheel, but (marginally) lighter, to see how well it would work.
Unfortunately I couldn't get the spokes in the right lengths at the right price and was impatient, so it got laced 32h 3x rear, and 28h 3x front, which I regret.
I hope this makes it clearer to you that, I mean having different spoke sizes will pull more one way under the same tensions/loads from one side of the wheel to the other, and that by a mix of spokes, nipples, and lacing I want to build a better balanced wheel, limiting as much unnecessary weight as possible, without sacrificing much strength/stiffness(?)... hopefully.